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Sexceptional Weekend + Masquerade! The Science of Fantasy - Tell Me What You Want w/ Dr. Justin Lehmiller!



Open to ALL professionals, their partners, friends and anyone that wants to learn more!

*Choose 1/2 day, full day or weekend with The Masquerade Ball!* Up to 15 hours of LPC, LMFT, LCSW and AASECT CEUs


We're so excited to announce this weekend training event! Best of all, it's open to everyone! **This training is included in the full AASECT CE credit for Sex Therapy Certification Educational Training Program if you have already registered HERE. Worth 155 AASECT CEs!

 Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Are you getting what you want when it comes to sex? Odds are, probably not. Most of us have sexual fantasies that we wish were part of our sexual reality; however, few of us have shared these desires with our partners, let alone acted on them, because fear, shame, and embarrassment are holding us back.

We need to move past sexual shame and learn to communicate our desires in order to establish happy and healthy relationships. Sexual communication has a number of benefits, from establishing greater intimacy and closeness to keeping passion alive for the long haul.

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Friday, December 7th, 10am - 6pm

- Sexual fantasy vs. sexual desire: What’s the difference?

- The who, what, when, where, and why of sexual fantasies

- How and why fantasies differ across gender, sexual orientation, and age

- The science of sexual fantasy: The most common fantasies, where they come from, and what they say about us

- Reconceptualizing paraphilias: Which sexual desires are truly uncommon and when does a sexual fantasy or desire become a cause for concern?  

Saturday, Dec 8th, 9am - 5pm (*Sexceptional Lecture 1:30pm-5pm w/ Sex Nerd Trivia + giveaways starting at 1:30pm*) PLUS The Masquerade Ball @ 8pm   

- Sexual communication: Tips and icebreakers that will allow you to confidently begin a dialogue

- Making the leap from fantasy to reality: What do you need to know?

- Monogamy vs. consensual non-monogamy: What are the unique benefits and challenges of each, and how do you figure out which approach is right for you?

- Discussing fantasies and desires with partners: Risk vs. reward

- The secrets to relationship success: Getting the sex life and relationship you want

- Sexceptional Lecture & Sex Nerd Trivia (Bring your friends, partners and anyone else that wants to learn!)

- The Masquerade Ball: Woodland Creatures (8pm @ Ironwood Hall)

**Please note: Most tickets already include a general admission ticket to the Masquerade!


Receive up to 15 CEUs for LPC, LMFT, LCSW and AASECT or see below for up to 155 AASECT CEs which already includes this weekend!



Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University and is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is also author of the new, highly praised book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (2nd edition released in 2017) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex ResearchArchives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine

Dr. Lehmiller has been interviewed by numerous media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, The Boston Globe,, The AtlanticThe Globe and Mail, and The Sunday Times. He has been named one of 5 "Sexperts" You Need to Follow on Twitter by Men's Health and one of the "modern-day masters of sex" by Nerve.

Dr. Lehmiller has appeared on several episodes of the television program Taboo on the National Geographic Channel and is a frequent guest on podcast and radio shows, such as the Savage Lovecast and the NPR programs Radio Times and Airtalk. He is a popular freelance writer, penning columns and op-eds for several major publications, including PlayboyUSA TodayVICE, Psychology Today, and New York Magazine. In addition, the articles he writes on Sex and Psychology have been syndicated on major websites, including Business InsiderHuffington PostMen's Health, and Thought Catalog.



At the start of the Sexceptional Lecture, our Sex Nerd Trivia team will take the stage and take you through some trivia for big prizes and fun! Your hosts are Samar Poorlanki, Booksy Booty and Brenna Ansely.

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This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for AASECT CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification. Completion of this program does not ensure or guarantee AASECT certification.

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to Mar 24

Sexceptional Weekend! Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, Dr. David Ley and MORE!

Flexible Relationships, Monogamish to Poly and more with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, Dr. David Ley and MORE!

Free Resources, free book chapters, articles and research. More available @ event.


Has a client or friend ever told you that they are in an open relationship, "monogamish," talk about threesomes, swinging or poly? Join us for a Sexceptional Weekend to learn the basics and explore all the intricacies of what it means to be in a consensual non-monogamous relationship.

Open to ALL professionals, their partners, friends and anyone that wants to learn more!

*Choose 1/2 day, full day or weekend!*

March 23-24th, 2018

Up to 17 hours of LPC, LMFT, LCSW and AASECT CEUs

This is a level 1 certificate toward full certification.Gain CEUs towards your Consensual Non-Monogamy Certification provided by the Sexual Health Alliance and/or gain AASECT CEUs towards AASECT Sex Therapy Certification and more! AASECT Program Approved.

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children. With a PhD in Sociology, Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff’s first book, The Polyamorists Next Door (2014 hardback and ebook, 2015 paperback and audiobook), details the findings of the first 15 years of her research on polyamorous families with children. Her second book, Stories from the Polycule (2015), is an edited anthology of writings by polyamorous folks. When Someone You Love is Polyamorous (2016) is Sheff’s shortest book that guides family members and significant others who are trying to understand a polyamorous loved one.



Advance skills for any Clinician, Sex Nerd or Curious Partner! Open to everyone, invite a friend!





700 San Jacinto Blvd

Austin, TX 78701 USA


Full Training Schedule:

Friday, March 23rd, 10am - 6pm

- Introduction to monogamish, open and poly relationships

- Therapeutic Issues in Consensual Non-Monogamy

- Resilience in Poly Families

- Legal Issues Facing Sexual and Gender Minorities

- Confronting Monogamy Bias in Psychotherapy

Saturday, March 24th, 10am - 6pm (*Sexceptional Lecture 2-6pm w/ Sex Nerd Trivia starting at 2pm*) + 6pm - 7:30pm Social Lubrication Mindful Happy Hour w/ Ted Talk Expert, Dr. Jenn!

- NonMonogamy MisMatch

- Case Studies and Panel

- 31 Flavors of Non-Monogamy

- Communication and Negotiation in CNM: Setting Boundaries

*Full weekend includes up to 17 LPC, LMFT, LCSW, & Psychologists CEUs as well as 16 AASECT CEUs, AASECT Program Approved

(This program meets the educational requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 17 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification.)

Sexceptional Lecture: 31 Flavors of Non-Monogamy with Dr. David Ley

Consensual NonMonogamy is the fastest growing relationship trend of the new millennium. Young people are embracing relationships that reject socially-mandated monogamy. Older generations which have lived nonmonogamously for decades are coming out of the closet about their lives and loves. The options are many and varied. Success in these new relationship styles requires self-awareness and personal skills. But how do you know which relationship style you’re best suited for? Which flavor of love and sex will best fit your palate, and work for your relationship? Dr. David Ley is an internationally-recognized expert on sexuality, and particularly on translating modern sexuality in a non-shaming way. In this novel, never-before-presented discussion, he explores how people can successfully and healthily navigate the growing ranges of relationship options. 

  Dr. David J. Ley is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and others.

Dr. David J. Ley is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and others.

Saturday, 3-6pm Sexceptional Lecture with Dr. Eli Sheff & Dr. David Ley: 

“31 Flavors of Non Monogamy"

Join us as we discuss the ways in which personal characteristics, relationship characteristics, political and moral values, all lead us to "choose" one flavor or the other.


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Full Weekend Training w/ Dr. David Ley & Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

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Bonus "Social Lubrication Hour"

Open to everyone & is included in the Sexceptional Lecture ticket

- 6-7:30 PM After the Sexceptional Lecture on Saturday

-Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, PhD:, sociologist and sexologist, frequent speaker about sexual consent, healthy relationships, erotic play, and mindful sex and presenter of two TEDx Talks.


- Build sexual communication skills while having fun and meeting like-minded folks!

-Have open conversations about sexual needs and desires can feel quite awkward, learn how to at this happy hour!


Confronting Monogamy Ideals Embedded in Psychotherapy: Some research has found that as many as 70% of licensed therapists view nonmonogamy as “unworkable” or “unrealistic.” Modern attachment theorists view Consensual Nonmonogamy (CNM) as emerging from deficient or disturbed relationships and early childhood experiences. However, CNM is becoming far more common, and unprepared therapists are encountering it in therapy far more frequently. This training helps therapists to examine their own biases about relationship, love and sex, and explores ways to address CNM in a non-judgmental, non-shaming manner. 

  • Participants will learn to confront and challenge their own unexamined biases about relationship styles and sexuality;
  • Therapists will gain skills to be able to understand and assist different types of CNM relationships; 
  • Therapists will learn to help individuals and couples gain self-awareness into the personal and relational characteristics which predict disposition to different types of CNM and success therein

CNM Case Presentations: Group will explore a variety of different case presentations, offered by the presenter, and by group participants. Participants will discuss assessment, treatment and intervention techniques appropriate to different types of CNM and different couples, based on the individual and relational characteristics. Group will discuss: Swinger couples; Cuckold couples; Polyamorous couples; Polyamorous Triads/Groups; Solo Polyamorists; DADT/Open couples; other. (2 hours)

  • Participants will gain exposure to different types of CNM therapy cases;
  • Participants will develop case presentation and treatment formulation skills;
  • Group will explore and share varied intervention and therapy techniques

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children. With a PhD in Sociology, Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff’s written 3 books, The Polyamorists Next Door (2014), Stories from the Polycule (2015) and When Someone You Love is Polyamorous (2016) explore decades of research and stories from polyamorous people. Dr. Sheff is currently in her fourth wave of data collection for her 20+ year study of polyamorous families with children.


Dr. David Ley


Dr. David J. Ley is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and others. He has been interviewed in publications ranging from the LA Times and the London Telegraph, to Playboy and Hustler magazines. Dr. Ley has published extensively in both the academic and “pop” realms of literature. His latest book, His new book Ethical Porn for Dicks, A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure has endorsements from Dan Savage and and is a humorous and provocative handbook for men who want to think more comprehensively about porn. The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012) and Insatiable Wives (2009) were revolutionary explorations of sexual issues which blended a powerful client-centered narrative with a rich understanding of psychology, biology and sociology. At the same time, he is Executive Director of a large behavioral health and substance abuse outpatient program, and consults across the country on both mental health and sexuality-related issues. As a result, Dr. Ley is able to bring a broad, practical approach to help mental health clinicians effectively address sexuality-related issues.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, sociologist and sex coach, is a frequent speaker about couples intimacy, sexual consent, healthy relationships, erotic play, and mindful sex. She has presented two TEDx Talks, is a writer on sex and relationships, and a recurring intimacy expert on the morning news. She is one of the founders of Sex Positive San Diego and the creator of World Sexual Health Day—San Diego. Dr. Jenn has over 1.4 million hits on her In the Den with Dr. Jenn YouTube video series, and is an expert in the documentary on masturbation, called Sticky: A (Self) Love Story. In addition, as a martial arts practitioner, she was recently promoted to black belt in Korean karate -- so watch out for this badass doctor!

Monogamish was originally coined by Dan Savage in 2011 to describe couples that are not totally monogamous. There is a recent documentary on the topic with Esther Perel, Dan Savage and Christopher Ryan that'll be out soon.

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1:00 PM13:00

The Sweet Spot: Advanced Skills in Pleasure

The Sweet Spot: Advanced Skills in Pleasure

Advance skills for any Clinician, Sex Nerd or Curious Partner! 

A limited number of tickets will for sale at the door!

We've all had the questions - but where can we go for up to date - accurate research and information?? How can we help our clients, patients and friends when they ask us specific questions? Join us for all the answers plus discover new ways to experience amazing fun! 

We'll break the ice first with the hottest divas from our Sex Nerd Trivia team - they are also at the Alamo Drafthouse Mueller once a month. They will have a few tricks and tips up their sleeve to have you contemplating the intricate sex facts of life! Starting at 1:00pm.

"Do you know what makes someone an amazing lover? Most people assume that it’s about having some secret move, but there’s a step that needs to happen first. How you approach your partner and offer attuned, attentive touch is the foundation. Without that, all of the tips, tricks, and techniques fall flat." - Charlie Glickman, Ph.D


Saturday Nov. 4th  (1pm- 5pm)

1-2pm Sex Nerd Trivia with giveaways and prizes!

2-5pm Sexceptional Lecture with Dr. Charlie Glickman!

Check out Top Tips Preview from Dr. Charlie Glickman on our Blog!


If you want to help people create satisfying and fulfilling sexual interactions (and if you want them for yourself), this event with somatic sex educator Charlie Glickman PhD will offer you new ways of understanding touch, communication, and pleasure. You’ll learn:

  • Simple and powerful exercises to explore consent, pleasure, and the different intentions that shape how we touch others
  • How to use Pleasure Mapping to discover new ways you (or your partner) like to be touched
  • Tools to track the rise and fall of erotic energy so you can integrate that information into your sexual experiences and build more excitement
  • Key anatomy information that demystifies sex and creates opportunities for pleasure
  • Plenty of pleasure techniques for G-spot, anal, prostate, and genital play

This event will give you more confidence in your own sex life and make it easier for you to support your clients as they expand their skill sets. Whatever your areas of expertise and experience level, you’ll learn new ways to talk about sexual pleasure and learn new ways to help people explore it for themselves. Come get your questions answered and find out where your own sweet spot is!

Clinicians: Research shows that many of your clients would like to be able to talk with you about sex and relationships, but they often hold back because they don’t know if it’s appropriate or if you’re knowledgeable. It’s up to you to let them know that you have the information and skills to respond and to invite them to talk with you.


This Sexceptional Lecture + Sex Nerd Trivia will offer 4 CEUs

*Objectives and CKA's for LPC, LMFT, LCSW, & Psychologists as well as 4 AASECT CEUs

(This program meets the educational requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 4 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification.)

Participants will be able to:

  • Demonstrate three different exercises or communication practices to help clients create attuned, attentive touch and communication
  • Explain at least three aspects of sexual anatomy to teach clients how to understand their bodies
  • Describe at least five erotic techniques in language that clients can understand and include in their sexual exploration


Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices. Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners. Find out more about him on his website or on Twitter and Facebook. For Charlie’s sex coaching services, visit Make Sex Easy.

Sweets & Treats Provided by Respark Therapy and Associates



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Getting Sexy with Disabilities w/ Dr. Mitch Tepper

  Saturday, July 8th, 2017     12:30-3:30pm Sexceptional Leture    3:30- 5:00pm Spark! Roundtable    Omni @ Southpark, 4140 Governors Row, Austin, TX 78744    ASL Interpreters provided by SOULumination!

Saturday, July 8th, 2017

12:30-3:30pm Sexceptional Leture

3:30- 5:00pm Spark! Roundtable

Omni @ Southpark, 4140 Governors Row, Austin, TX 78744

ASL Interpreters provided by SOULumination!

Join us for a Sexceptional Lecture with Dr. Mitchell Tepper!

Expert Sex Educator, International Lecturer, Film Maker and Thought Leader: Dr. Mitch Tepper brings more than a wheel chair to the stage. Join us as we dive deep into the world of disability & inclusivity to explore what most people miss and what you need to know about this vast population.

Inclusivity with disabilities includes people of all shapes and sizes that are marginalized, those with any kind of pain, illness, neurodiversity, or chronic conditions like chronic fatigue, back pain, asthma, spinal cord injury, hearing and visual impairment, multiple sclerosis and more. Join us as we explore and learn all about sex and inclusitivy with disability and diversity.

Disability is a universal human experience. In the United States alone, there are 56.7 million people with disabilities and they are as interested in sex as anyone else. However, their sexuality and sexual needs are often ignored. Are you prepared to serve them? Learn how to predict the likely sexual challenges for virtually any type of disability and how you can make a difference.

    • Who are people with disabilities?

    • How can you impact their sexual esteem?

    • What can you learn about sexuality from them?

    • How can you promote their sexual health?

BONUS! The hours from this event count toward the SHA Certificate Program that will be online and launch this summer!

Meet Mitch!

Mitchell Tepper, PhD, MPH, author of Regain that Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery, brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexologist. He is an internationally renowned expert in the field of sexuality and disability and leading advocate for the provision of comprehensive sexual health care. He has taught at the School of Medicine at Yale University and at Morehouse School of Medicine. In addition he has provided continuing education and training to thousands of health care professionals based on his curriculum, Providing Comprehensive Sexual Health Care for People with Spinal Cord Injuries: Continuing Education for Health Care Professionals. Dr. Tepper is AASECT Certified as a Sexuality Educator, Educator Supervisor, and Sexuality Counselor, and is a licensed PAIRS Instructor. He is currently working on a documentary, Love After War: Supporting Intimate Relationships for Injured Veterans and Their Families.

His academic credentials include a Master of Public Health from Yale University, and a PhD in Human Sexuality Education from the University of Pennsylvania where his research focused on pleasure and orgasm in people with SCI.

Dr. Tepper is called on regularly by the media and has been featured on CNN, Discovery, PBS and in popular press, including The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, USA Today, Good Housekeeping, Cosmopolitan, GQ, AARP, and HuffPost Live.


Topic: SexTech & Toys - The Future of Disabilities

Roundtable Panel Members Include:

Dr. Mitchell Tepper, Our Sexceptional Lecturer (Please see bio above)

Nick Winges-Yanez, M.S.W., Ph.D Candidate - After many years working in direct social services, Nick received her B.S.W. and M.S.W. from Portland State University and is currently completing her PhD. Her research uses the work of Foucault, proposing a genealogical framework to examine how sexuality has historically been used to define and oppress individuals labeled with intellectual disability.  Nick previously completed a qualitative study interviewing queer-identified youth about their experiences with sex education in schools.  Currently the Education Coordinator at Q Toys in Austin, Nick approaches sex education with a background in queer and feminist theory and a focus on improved sexuality discourse and access to pleasure.

Deanna Theis, IT Collection - Despite creating useful gadgets throughout her life, the Perfect Pleasure™ cushion is her first invention that has come to fruition. Deanna first came up with the idea for a hands-free masturbation alternative in 2012 when she temporarily lost mobility in one arm due to a pinched nerve. Having recently purchased the Magic Wand Original®, the concept began as a simple handle for a vibrator. Over the course of the next two years she refined her goal to simply, this: create products that provide the highest level of pleasure to any and all who use them. Creating a lifestyle line that could meet the needs of every body became not only a challenge, but a personal mission. From Deanna’s passion, The It Collection was born and the Perfect Pleasure cushion was created as the first of many real solutions for real people.

Kalie Kubes, Planned Parenthood -. Kalie is a hard of hearing UT graduate with a BS in Youth and Community Studies. In addition to having a hearing loss, Kalie has battled multiple chronic illnesses and chronic pain her entire life. She currently works as a Medical Assistant at Planned Parenthood where she enjoys educating patients on safe sex, healthy relationships, birth control, and prevention of STDs.   

River, The Juicy Truth, Surrogate Partner - River became a surrogate partner because her purpose in life is to promote the evolution of our species through healthy, authentic, sexual expression and intimate relationships. A surrogate partner works in partnership with a talk professional, such as a therapist, to support the client.  The surrogate partner is a substitute partner for clients who want to improve their sex and intimacy skills, but have no practice partner.  Clients have an opportunity to experience intimacy and develop new skills and capacities with a trained professional.  River also founded and co-hosts the Surrogate Partner Salon, a free monthly gathering in Austin of therapists who work with surrogate partners or seek to work with surrogate partners, and two professionally certified surrogate partners.  The Salon is an opportunity for those of us within the field to hone our skills.  Find out more about the surrogate partner process, the Surrogate Partner Salon, and River at her site:

**More Panel Members will be announced soon!

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The Tantra Informed Practitioner: A Sexceptional Weekend w/ Dr. Sally Valentine

Join us for a Sexceptional Weekend on Tantra w/ Dr. Sally Valentine! 

Friday May 5th (6pm-8pm): An introduction to Tantra with a special experiential evening with guided exercises. Bring a date or come solo! 

Saturday May 6th (10am-5pm): "Deepening the Tantra Aware Practitioner" which includes Workbook

Educational + advanced experiential exercises, all levels welcome

**Learn how to integrate Tantra into your practice with clients and patients!**

  1. Compassionate listening and verbal/sexual communication
  2. Explore and release sexual fears and old beliefs of sexuality
  3. Tantric Visualization and centering techniques
  4. Greater understanding of the connection between spirituality and sexuality
  5. Tantric practices through breath work, energy and body movement
  6. Discover how latest scientific research supports the wisdom of ancient tantra

Learning Objectives (letters are for AASECT CEUs)

  1. Describe Tantra practice on four levels (E, F, H, I)
  2. Identify four Tantra principles useful for sexual wholeness (B, E, M)
  3. Demonstrate Tantric breathing techniques that may enhance energy movement in the body (E, M)
  4. Identify the effects of negative sexual messages/experiences and sexual fear on healthy sexuality (B, C, D, H, J) 
  5. Describe the 7 main energy centers in the Chakra system (I)
  6. Demonstrate and identify the benefits of Kegel exercises (G, I, H)
  7. Discuss how scientific research supports some of the wisdom teachings of Tantra (Q)
  8. Discuss how sacred, spiritual sex differs from mechanical sex (E, F, I)

Are you a licensed clinician? Purchase the option below with CEUs even if you do not need them. For those seeking AASECT certification, core knowledge areas, CKA, include: B, C, E, F, H, I, J, M. Please go to to determine specific CKA's. *Please note: Completion of this program does not ensure or guarantee AASECT certification. 


Sally Valentine, PhD, FAACS holds a doctorate in clinical sexology, is a licensed clinical social worker, certified sex therapist, certified EMDR therapist, certified hypnotherapist, certified Imago Relationship Therapist, and a registered Sivananda yoga teacher. She has extensive training in sex therapy, hypnotherapy, EMDR, trauma resolution and tantric mind-body therapy. Sally has a private practice in Boca Raton, FL and specializes in relationship/intimacy issues, sexuality concerns, trauma and life stressors. Additionally, Sally is an AASECT Certified Supervisor for Sex Therapists and a state approved Clinical Supervisor for Licensees of Clinical Social Work. 

Dr. Valentine is a national and international presenter and workshop facilitator. She teaches in areas of enhancing sexuality, tantra sexuality, healing the mind-body connection of trauma, and personal growth transformation. Sally is a fellow of the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists and a Diplomate of the American Board of Sexology. She is an active member of the American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, National Association of Social Workers, Imago Relational Therapy International, Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy Association and EMDR International Association. 

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9:00 AM09:00

Sexceptional Consultation Group + Women's March!

Sexceptional Consultation Group + Women's March!

with Doug Braun-Harvey, MFT, CGP, CST

We Couldn't Miss This Historic Event...

Special Consultation Group w/ Doug Braun-Harvey on Jan. 21st from 9am-11am. Then we'll all head to the Capitol to march afterwards!


Based on your feedback and conversations with Doug, the Sexceptional Lecture is now: 

  • A Special Consultation Group w/ Doug Braun-Harvey

  • Jan. 21st from 9am-11am

  • Then we'll all head to the Capitol to march afterwards

  • The consultation group will be limited and you will need to reserve your seat below. Everyone who bought a lecture ticket will be refunded. 

It's a Sexceptional -Historical- Day you can't miss. We will be marching for women's rights, social justice and equality of opportunity.

Everyone, please join Doug Braun-Harvey and SSHA at the Women's March @ the Texas State Capitol
Jan. 21st, 2017 at noon

The largest certifying board for Sexual Health (AASECT) recently announced the rejection of the concept and treatment of "Sex Addiction."

Let's learn why together...

Join us in Austin for a Sexceptional Class to learn the latest research and surprising findings on "Sex Addiction." We will learn about the wonderful alternative to treating out of control sexual behavior (OCSB). This two hour class will provide a forum for expansive dialogue and discussion about the recently published book "Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction" by Doug Braun-Harvey and Michael Vigorito (2016).

Doug Braun-Harvey’s innovative OCSB treatment model, based on over 20 years of clinical experience (co-developed with Michael Vigorito), combines extensive clinical practice with science and research from sexual health, human behavior, motivational change, attachment, self-regulation and eroticism within a combined individual and group therapy treatment model. The collaborative client/therapist treatment relationship is founded on the principle of men taking responsibility for defining and integrating their personal sexual health vision.


Doug Braun-Harvey, MFT, CGP, CST

Sexual health author, trainer and psychotherapist Douglas Braun-Harvey bridges sexual and mental health and facilitates organizational change. In 2013 Doug Braun-Harvey and Al Killen-Harvey co-founded The Harvey Institute, an international education, training, consulting and supervision service for Improving health care through integration of sexual health. He teaches and trains nationally and internationally linking sexual health principles within drug and alcohol treatment, group psychotherapy, HIV prevention and treatment, and child maltreatment.   

Since 1993 he has been developing and implementing a sexual health based treatment approach for men with out of control sexual behavior (OCSB). His new book “Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction” written with co-author Michael Vigorito was published in 2015. Previous publications include “Sexual Health in Recovery: Professional Counselor’s Manual” (2011) and “Sexual Health in Drug and Alcohol Treatment: Group Facilitator’s Manual” (2009). 

Mr. Braun-Harvey is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Group Psychotherapist and Certified Sex Therapist. He currently serves as Treasurer of AASECT and is honored, as an alumni of the University of Minnesota, to join their Advisory Board for the Program in Human Sexuality in which he is a founding donor of the Doug Braun-Harvey Fellowship in Compulsive Sexual Behavior. He has been providing individual and group therapy in his San Diego private practice since 1987.

Thank you to our wonderful sponsor!

 Derek Leighton, LMFT, LPC, NCC, CGP, CST  Certified EMDR & Sex Therapist | Leighton & Associates

Derek Leighton, LMFT, LPC, NCC, CGP, CST  Certified EMDR & Sex Therapist | Leighton & Associates


Here's a compiled list of a variety of clients that either self-diagnosed as sex addicts or were diagnosed by others including professionals, partners, clergy and the internet.  

What is considered Out of Control Sexual Behavior? And, how do we help?

4 y.o. female rubbing genitals on furniture for pleasure.  This was happening daily.  Parents called because they "knew" she was a sex addict and wanted early intervention.

42 y.o. male, father of five and widow who masturbated to heterosexual porn daily - sought treatment for being a sex addict because he couldn't stop despite his efforts in trying. 

22 y.o. newly married, masturbated to het porn 4 times in past year, dx as sex addict by partner, bishop and self.

42 y.o. single female in a secret sexual relationship with child's father who is married to another woman. Wants to stop having sex with man but say she can't. Self diagnosed as sex addict due to finding a sex addiction treatment center website with sex addict online questionnaire.

16 y.o. gay, male, Catholic. Masturbates to gay porn occasionally but views porn to explore his identity and fantasies because "I can't talk to anyone." Self diagnosed.

26 y.o. het female married.  Masturbates three times a week to alleviate stress and aid in falling asleep.

68 y.o. married het male married 30 years.  Sexless marriage for the past 10 years.  Tried to find women online but found it difficult.  Found it was easier to meet men.  Had sex with four men over the past three years.  Therapist dx him a sex addict due to having sex with other men despite identifying as straight.

32 y.o. cis het male, married with one child.  Masturbated to videos of women stripping on youtube once a morning for 20 minutes while using the bathroom.  Wife dx him as an addict because he did not tell her he was doing it. 

31 y.o. cis het male, wears women’s panties all day and then masturbates in the mirror wearing the panties.  Wife discovers behavior and go to counseling with a church leader.  Both agree his is a sex addict and is referred to treatment. 

48 y.o. married het male, masturbates two times a week to Victoria Secret magazines to balance out desire discrepancy.  Has sex weekly with wife.

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9:30 AM09:30

Cutting Edges of Alternative Sexualities in Therapy



A special evening with National Experts
with Dr. Richard Sprott & Dr. Anna Randall

The Psychobiology of Kink, the Psychology of Consent, and Interest Discrepancy in Relationships: Cutting Edges of Alternative Sexualities in Therapy

A special day-long (Saturday Dec 3rd) conference open to all professionals and sexual health professionals on working with kink sexualities and consensual non-monogamies, with a focus on mind-body interactions around BDSM, issues around consent and how alternative sexuality communities negotiate consent, and the dynamics of discrepancy in sexuality interests in people’s committed relationships with others.

For those that are a little more sex're invited to a special evening. We will blow away the common myths about what it is, theorize on where it comes from, and what might be really happening, There will be tips on how to better enjoy the altered consciousness that can be experienced in BDSM.  Plus...for the adventurous mind...A special toy bag tour and more from South Austin Kinksters!


  • Identify three aspects of competent care in working with kink-oriented clients
  • Articulate several reasons and motivations for engaging in kink behavior
  • Outline the biological aspects of pain and pleasure perception and experiences
  • Discuss the issues around consent as a psychological process
  • Apply concepts of competent care with kink-oriented clients to specific types of commonly presented problems


9 am to 10 am

  • Brief Introduction to Kink / BDSM Behaviors, Identities, Communities
  • Questions to Guide the Workshop
  • Overview of “Kink Competent Care”

10 am to 11 am

  • Motivations for Engaging in Kink
  • Psychobiology of SM

11 am to 12 noon

  • Psychobiology of SM
  • People using Kink to Self Regulate or to Heal

12 noon to 12:45 pm Lunch Break

12:45 - 1 pm

  • Review and Questions

1 pm - 2 pm

  • Consent and Consent Violations

2 pm - 3:30 pm

  • Case Study Presentation and Discussion

Recommended Readings

Nichols, M. (2006). Psychotherapeutic Issues with “Kinky” Clients. Journal of Homosexuality, 50:2-3, 281-300.

Sprott, R.A., Randall, A., Davison, K., Cannon, N., and Witherspoon, R.G. (in review). Alternative or non-traditional sexualities and therapy: A case report. Journal of Clinical Psychology: In Session. 

(This program meets the educational requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 8 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification.)

 Dr. Richard Sprott (CARAS)

Dr. Richard Sprott (CARAS)

 Dr. Anna Randall (TASHRA)

Dr. Anna Randall (TASHRA)

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12:30 PM12:30

Sex Outside the Lines: Liberating Sex from Culture, Psychology and Normativity w/ Dr. Chris Donaghue




Allow us to introduce you to a game changer... Dr. Chris Donaghue

    *With Keynote Speech from Buster Ross, MA, CSC, LPC, CADC II**










        • Break down the limiting cultural and psychological structures to create a more expansive and inclusive view of sexual-relational health
        • Demonstrate how "normal" is oppressive and shaming
        • Challenge current sexual diagnoses and disorders as flawed, pathologizing, and heteronormative
        • Provide a new vision for sexual-relational health


        • Psychological, Neuro, and Sexual differences aren’t disorders
        • Challenging Shaming Narratives around Non-Normative Sex and Relationships
        • Sex Addiction as Sex Phobia
        • Sexual Diagnoses as Body Shaming and Policing of Diversity
        • Deconstructing Intercourse Biased Sex  
        • Flaws of a Heteronormative Fantasy of Marriage
        • Tyranny of Monogamy 
        • Gender, Identity and Orientation as Traumas
        • Problems with Medical & Therapeutic Models


        • 12:30-1:30pm Sex Nerd Trivia (Included with your ticket! Win big!)

        • 1:45-2:30pm Keynote with Buster Ross, MA, CSC, LPC, CADC II

        • 2:30-4:30pm Sexceptional Lecture with Dr. Chris Donghue!


          Dr. Chris Donaghue is a Doctor of Clinical Sexology and Human Sexuality, Doctoral trained in Clinical Psychology, Licensed Clinical Therapist, and a Certified Sex Therapist.

          Dr. Donaghue specializes in individual and couples sex and marital therapy, as well as sexual compulsivity, sexual anorexia, sexual dysfunctions, and non-traditional sexuality, identities, and relationships.

          Dr. Donaghue is a member of American Association of Sex Counselors, Educators, and Therapists (AASECT) and the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS). Chris is one out of only four hundred individuals who completed the extra training to receive his CST Credentials.

          Dr. Donaghue is the co-host of the new "Loveline Podcast with Amber Rose," a featured expert and guest co-host on CBS' "The Doctors" TV show, featured expert on VH1's "The Amber Rose Show." He has been featured on The Today Show, VICE, CNN, HLN, OWN, Nightline, Dr. Drew and featured in Newsweek, New York Times, Daily Beast, Men's Health, Cosmo, and National Geographic.

          Dr. Chris Donaghue is the author of “Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture,” that is currently used in the curriculum as UCLA, Princeton, and USC. Order the book on Amazon here.

          Keynote Speaker

          Buster Ross is an AASECT-Certified Sexuality Counselor, Licensed Professional Counselor, and Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor II. Buster previously worked as the National LGBTQ Program Director at Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation, where he continues to teach graduate students on topics related to human sexuality and substance use disorders. He currently is involved in developing training materials for doctors working harm reduction with opioid addicts, having been to the White House Office of National Drug Control Policy and SAMHSA Headquarters on more than one occasion to consult on drug policy and treatment in the U.S.

          This program is officially approved for 3.5 AASECT CEUs. Completion of this program does not ensure or guarantee AASECT certification. Please see the AASECT website for full certification requirements.

          (This program meets the educational requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 3.5 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification.)


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          1:00 PM13:00

          Come As You Are: Secrets From the Science of Female Sexuality

          The last twenty years of sex research and brain science have utterly transformed how we understand the brain mechanism of sex and female sexuality. How does sexual frustration work, and what can a person do about it? What’s going on in the brain, when a sensation that hurts in one context, feels pleasurable in another context? Why might a woman’s genitals respond to sexual violence? This workshop describes key insights from affective neuroscience and attachment theory into female sexuality and provides opportunities to develop strategies for using these insights in clinical and educational interventions, particularly around sexual dysfunction, but also in promoting sexual health and consent, supporting trauma survivors, and training sex educators, therapists and sex geeks in Texas.

          Could there be a single, universal principle that can transform the sex lives of people of all genital configurations, all gender identities, all sexual orientations, all relationship configurations, all body shapes and sizes, all colors, and maybe even all religions? Emily thinks there could be, and it’s this: Put pleasure at the center of your definition of sexual wellbeing. 


          • Identify the three components of the dual control model
          • Describe the relationships among "wanting," "liking," and "expecting," as distinct neurological processes, 
          • Explain the ways that context - external circumstances and internal mental state - influence the brain's response to stimulation
          • Use at least two strategies for incorporating the insights of affective neuroscience into client education


          Emily Nagoski is a sex educator, author, research and activist who has a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a Master’s degree (also from IU) in Counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She also has a B.A. in Psychology, with minors in cognitive science and philosophy, from the University of Delaware. While at IU, Emily worked as an educator and docent at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex Gender and Reproduction. She also taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education.

          See Dr. Emily Nagoski present at TEDx

          THAT S.E.X. SHOW

          with Dr. Karen Rayne & Sam Killermann

          Come enjoy a night of classy debauchery while still earning your CEUs. Part comedy show, part lively Q&A, complete lasciviousness — it's the perfect way to spend an evening in Austin, TX. The show is interactive (if you choose) and full of variety. You're allowed to laugh. You're allowed to learn. You're allowed to be uncomfortable. This is a show that's as entertaining as it is enlightening. We'll talk about the things you've been afraid to ask about, but in a light-hearted, enjoyable, intentionally-non-intimidating fashion.

          Dr.Karen Rayne has been working in education for the past two decades with an expertise in sexuality education. She has her Ph.D. in Educational Psychology from UT Austin, where she focused on ethics education and the choices that adolescent mothers make. Dr. Rayne founded Unhushed in order to open conversations about sexuality in the home. Dr. Rayne works locally with many private schools including St. Stephens and St. Andrews and nationally with the American Journal of Sexuality Education, the National Sex Ed Conference, and the Unitarian Universalist Association. Dr. Rayne is passionate about providing comprehensive sexuality education to people of all ages and stages with sensitivity and a touch of humor.
          Sam Killermann is a social justice comedian, and the guy behind It’s Pronounced Metrosexual, a one-man comedy show and blog about snap judgments, identity, and oppression (but in a totally funny way). He travels the country performing the show at colleges and universities, and writes articles about social justice, gender, and sexuality when he’s at home in Austin. Sam is the author of A Guide to Gender, a full exploration of gender from a social justice perspective, with humor and comics sprinkled in. He gave a well-received TEDx talk about the complexities of gender, and co-created the online resource about gender, sexuality, and LGBTQ+ sensitivity training The Safe Zone Project. It's safe to say that if Sam has a "thing," that thing is gender. 


          Learn More About Dr. Karen Rayne and Sam Killermann - Two People in Austin You Need to Know!


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          12:15 PM12:15

          Dr. Marty Klein - Sexual Intelligence: Innovative Approaches to Sexual "Function" and Satisfaction

          • Omni Austin Hotel at Southpark (map)
          • Google Calendar ICS

          Most people say they want pleasure and closeness from sex, but during sex they typically focus on how they look, smell, and sound; obsess on what their partner is thinking; try to manage distracting thoughts & feelings; and most of all, attend to their performance.

          That leads exactly to what so many people fear: sexual “dysfunctions” like erection, orgasm, or desire problems. Therapists and self-help books can make things worse, because they’re trying to improve “functioning”—which is exactly wrong. Better friction doesn’t give people what they really want from sex: a sense of relaxation, playfulness, self-acceptance, and connection. Erections and lubrication don’t guarantee desire or satisfaction. And so treating people’s genitalia is the wrong approach to enhancing their passion or pleasure.

          In this seminar we examined:

          • How to help people identify the good reasons they don’t desire or initiate sex;

          • How people construct culturally-syntonic sexual narratives—and how we can help patients see and change them;

          • How to support people in making the transition from lust-driven sex to adult eroticism—and how to help people confront the existential issues that arise when they do;

          • How we can help people discover what their authentic sexual desires actually are, and how they can share these with a partner;

          • How to understand the role of Normality Anxiety and existential avoidance in sexual decision-making, and how to discuss this with patients.

          After attending this program, participants will be able:

          1. To describe how people make sex difficult for themselves
          2. To describe how to help people enjoy sex more
          3. To assess and discuss patients’ narratives about sex and their sexuality

          Dr. Marty Klein has been a California Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for 34 years—that’s some 35,000 sessions with men, women, and couples.

          Marty is the award-winning author of seven books on sexuality and relationships, including the ground-breaking Sexual Intelligence. Psychology Today simply says “To improve your sex life, buy this book.” Marty is also the author of many training CDs, DVDs, and webinars.

          Marty is frequently quoted by the popular media, such as The New York Times, The New Yorker, National Public Radio, and Huffington Post. Marty is an outspoken critic of many popular and clinical ideas about sexuality and emotional health, and is a dedicated advocate of sexuality training for psychologists, physicians, attorneys, judges, clergy, and school boards.

          Marty’s blog and electronic newsletter Sexual Intelligence are frequently cited as sources of innovative thinking about sexuality, culture, politics, and the media. Last year he gave two U.S. Congressional briefings on evidence-based sex education.

          Each year Marty trains thousands of physicians, psychologists, and social workers across North America, Europe, and Asia—30 countries to date. Audiences consistently call his talks thought-provoking, down-to-earth, and entertaining. We’re expecting all three. 


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          12:00 PM12:00

          Dr. David Ley - Porn: What You Need to Know

          Porn is everywhere. Over the past decade, access to pornography has increased, along with a stunning increase in the diversity of sexually explicit material now widely and freely available. More than ever before, issues related to pornography are entering the therapy office, related to marital conflicts, work-related problems, as well as issues involving sexual expression, libido, identity and gender conflicts. All occur within a complex social environment where attitudes towards sexual values are changing rapidly. Our media is filled with a confusing, polarized dialogue about the dangers of porn, at the same time that sexually-explicit images are used in advertising and entertainment. Across the country, people feel fear and shame about porn use, and most therapists have little training to support or conceptualize these issues.

          In this workshop, Dr. Ley brings his years of clinical and research expertise to bear, helping clinicians to understand how to effectively assess and treat porn-related issues, in a rich, sophisticated and evidence-informed manner. 


          • Assess the function and role of porn in people’s lives;

          • Conceptualize the individualized diversity and changing nature of pornography;

          • Use issues related to porn to gain a deeper understanding of a patient’s coping skills, sexual needs, communication and negotiation issues within relationships;

          • Understand the complex relationship between porn and sexual crimes;

          • Use porn therapeutically within relationships;

          • Respond therapeutically and effectively to concerns about porn addiction;

          • Support and encourage responsible, mindful and aware use of porn.  

          This workshop contains explicit imagery, language and media, used in a thoughtful, non-salacious manner to illustrate and broaden the dialogue.


          Dr. David J. Ley is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and others. He has been interviewed in publications ranging from the LA Times and the London Telegraph, to Playboy and Hustler magazines. Dr. Ley has published extensively in both the academic and “pop” realms of literature. His two books, The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012) and Insatiable Wives (2009) were revolutionary explorations of sexual issues which blended a powerful client-centered narrative with a rich understanding of psychology, biology and sociology. At the same time, he is Executive Director of a large behavioral health and substance abuse outpatient program, and consults across the country on both mental health and sexuality-related issues. As a result, Dr. Ley is able to bring a broad, practical approach to help mental health clinicians effectively address sexuality-related issues.



          Light lunch graciously provided by: Inamorata, LLC.

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