Our Sexceptional Lecturer, Dr. Justin Lehmiller continues to outstanding praise and media coverage. He has been on a world tour with the Sexual Health Alliance to deliver trainings to all types of professionals in Denver, CO, Austin, TX, Dallas, TX, Los Angelos, CA, Chicago, IL and Seattle, WA. Visit our Events tab at the top of the page to find all upcoming events!
TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT Book tour Media Coverage
Major features (print and online)
Health.com
http://www.health.com/sex/most-common-sexual-fantasies-explained
The Wall Street Journal
https://www.wsj.com/articles/new-research-delves-into-sexual-fantasies-1529936957
The Australian (reprint of WSJ article)
https://www.theaustralian.com.au/business/wall-street-journal/sexual-fantasy-survey-uncovers-surprising-insights/news-story/092923a06a8a4d34ecd7539f2b462ecd
The New Zealand Herald (reprint of WSJ article)
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/relationships/news/article.cfm?c_id=41&objectid=12081088
The Daily Mail (U.K.)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5883591/Americans-crave-group-sex-largest-domestic-survey-sexual-fantasies-reveals.html
NUVO (Indianapolis paper)
https://www.nuvo.net/arts/summer-reads-new-books-by-indy-authors/article_5ff70a50-798b-11e8-8149-830546771d79.html
De Morgen (Begium newspaper)
https://www.demorgen.be/wetenschap/meeste-mensen-dromen-van-triootje-maar-doen-het-daarom-nog-niet-b8f9583c/
Bustle
https://www.bustle.com/p/the-7-most-popular-sexual-fantasies-according-to-4000-americans-9615180
Mel Magazine
https://melmagazine.com/americans-crave-group-sex-fc57e932b3ae
Livestrong
https://www.livestrong.com/article/13713594-the-most-popular-sexual-fantasy-americans-have/
https://www.livestrong.com/slideshow/13713927-the-psychology-behind-8-popular-american-sexual-fantasies/
The Sunday Times (U.K.)
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/tell-me-what-you-want-an-exclusive-extract-from-dr-justin-lehmiller-s-new-book-exploring-what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-you-zl7w535ml
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/editor-s-letter-lorraine-candy-on-sexual-fantasies-and-dr-justin-lehmiller-s-new-book-tell-me-what-you-want-jsctrbhx6
Psychology Today
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201807/fantasy-island-research-probes-the-science-sexual-desire (book review by Michael Aaron)
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stepmonster/201807/what-we-think-about-when-we-think-about-and-have-sex (Q&A with Wednesday Martin)
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-myths-sex/201807/the-deeper-psychological-meaning-behind-your-sex-fantasies
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-myths-sex/201807/where-do-our-sexual-fantasies-come
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201808/why-do-we-have-sex-fantasies-its-about-more-pleasure
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201808/what-your-sexual-fantasies-reveal-about-your-personality
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201807/the-politics-cuckolding (post by David Ley)
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201809/4-uncommon-sexual-fantasies-and-what-they-mean
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201809/what-do-our-sexual-fantasies-say-about-who-we-are
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201810/seven-fascinating-facts-about-sexual-fantasies
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-matters/201811/new-research-might-be-able-predict-your-sexual-fantasies (post by Ari Tuckman)
Herald Sun (Australia)
https://www.heraldsun.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/a-new-survey-has-revealed-what-we-really-fantasise-about-in-bed-and-how-it-varies/news-story/3803c10ad386aa8e38b4656034403d60
The Sun (U.K.)
https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/6671001/six-common-sexual-fantasies-revealed/
https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/6653023/heres-what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-your-personality-and-it-turns-out-women-like-it-rougher-than-men/
https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/6757293/two-year-sex-survey-brits/
https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/7562703/sexual-fantasies-personality/
Daily Mirror (U.K.)
https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/sex-relationships/sex/top-6-most-common-sexual-12839475
https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/health/how-improve-your-sex-life-12895401
Bild (German tabloid)
https://m.bild.de/unterhaltung/erotik/sex-und-liebe/von-diesem-sex-traeumen-wir-am-haeufigsten-56185836.bildMobile.html
goop
https://goop.com/wellness/sexual-health/how-the-science-of-sexual-desire-can-improve-your-sex-life/?ref=newsletter
Metro (U.K.)
https://metro.co.uk/2018/07/07/seven-common-sexual-fantasies-7690384/
The I (U.K.)
https://inews.co.uk/opinion/the-most-unusual-sexual-fantasies-from-the-largest-ever-survey-and-what-they-tell-us/
https://inews.co.uk/opinion/the-deeper-psychological-needs-behind-your-sexual-fantasies/
The Independent (U.K.)
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/common-sexual-fantasies-threesomes-bdsm-public-american-a8438566.html
VICE/TONIC (book excerpt)
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/evk8ae/how-to-stop-feeling-guilty-about-what-you-want-in-bed
USA Today
https://usat.ly/2uacwCS
Republished in the Battle Creek Enquirer (Michigan) in print
Ask Me Anything on Reddit (July 10)
https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/8xr09r/i_am_justin_lehmiller_a_research_fellow_at_the/
New York Journal of Books (review)
https://www.nyjournalofbooks.com/book-review/tell-me
Naked at Our Age by Joan Price (review)
http://betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/2018/07/tell-me-what-you-want-by-justin.html
The Atlantic
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/07/sexual-fantasies-justin-lehmiller/565547/
The Indianapolis Star
https://www.indystar.com/story/entertainment/arts/2018/07/19/kinsey-sex-doc-most-common-sexual-fantasy-america/786609002/
Republished in USA Today: https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/nation-now/2018/07/19/kinsey-institute-sex-researcher-sexual-fantasies/800581002/
Republished in Cincinnati Enquirer: https://www.cincinnati.com/story/entertainment/arts/2018/07/19/kinsey-sex-doc-most-common-sexual-fantasy-america/786609002/
Republished in Louisville Courier Journal: https://www.courier-journal.com/story/entertainment/arts/2018/07/20/most-common-sexual-fantasy-america/807749002/
The Cut
https://www.thecut.com/article/what-its-like-to-be-a-sex-researcher.html
CNN
https://www.cnn.com/2018/07/24/health/sex-fantasies-kerner/index.html
Republished in CNN Chile: https://www.cnnchile.com/tendencias/esto-es-lo-que-tus-fantasias-sexuales-dicen-sobre-ti_20181020/
Chicago Tribune
http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/stevens/ct-life-stevens-monday-americans-sexual-fantasies-0730-story.html
Republished in Arizona Daily Star: https://tucson.com/lifestyles/balancing-act-americans-no-sexual-fantasy-survey-says/article_a1af8470-daec-56cf-880f-620e7c39ec7d.html
Republished in the Santa Barbara News Press (print only)
Of Sex and Love Blog (review)
http://ofsexandlove.com/tell-me-what-you-want
Boston Globe
https://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/2018/08/10/tell-what-you-want-looks-sexual-fantasies-and-science-desire/rEugCse6UDX3KjJuQ03srK/story.html
Fatherly
https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/sex/sex-fantasies-common-desire-shame-research/
Men’s Health Magazine (print) – “Ask an Advisor” feature entitled “Reel Sex” published in the September 2018 issue
Romance Daily News
https://www.romancedailynews.com/trends
RealClearLife
http://www.realclearlife.com/books/americas-sexual-fantasies-laid-bare-new-book/
Yahoo Brazil
https://br.vida-estilo.yahoo.com/casais-acham-mais-facil-fazer-sexo-que-revelar-fantasias-diz-pesquisador-233903997.html
Broadly
https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/qvmynb/five-most-common-sexual-kinks-fantasies
Maxim
https://www.maxim.com/maxim-man/most-popular-kinks-in-america-2018-9
NUVO (online and in print)
https://www.nuvo.net/arts/tell-me-what-you-want-science-and-sexual-fantasy/article_89047c0e-c100-11e8-bab7-8be69baf5fd0.html
Brides.com
https://www.brides.com/story/fantasize-about-your-partner
The New York Times (review)
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/10/17/books/review/tell-me-what-you-want-justin-lehmiller.html
Published in print on October 21, 2018
Huffington Post
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-your-sexual-fantasies-reveal-about-you_n_5bc8b6d3e4b0a8f17eea3227
Elite Daily
https://www.elitedaily.com/p/what-do-your-sexual-fantasies-reveal-about-your-personality-this-study-is-mindblowing-12753040
Politico (op-ed written by me)
https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2018/10/27/sexual-fantasies-republicans-democrats-politics-221919
Covered in Rolling Stone
https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/republican-democrat-different-sexual-fantasies-748265/amp/
Covered in Yahoo
https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/republicans-democrats-divided-sexual-fantasies-182845074.html
Covered in Yahoo News UK
https://sports.yahoo.com/left-wingers-right-wingers-different-sexual-fantasies-124251689.html
Covered in Indy100
https://www.indy100.com/article/midterms-2018-sex-fantasy-study-sexual-republican-democrat-bdsm-infedelity-8608851
Covered in IFL Science
https://www.iflscience.com/editors-blog/republicans-and-democrats-have-very-different-sexual-fantasies/
Covered in LGBTQ Nation
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2018/10/republicans-democrats-vastly-different-sexual-fantasies-reason-fascinating/
Covered in Inquisitor
https://www.inquisitr.com/5136903/republicans-democrats-divided-on-sexual-fantasies-as-well-as-politics/amp/
Covered on The Late Show With Stephen Colbert
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3neoZaTEUeM&feature=youtu.be
Information (Danish newspaper)
https://www.information.dk/kultur/2018/10/bogkort-forskellene-paa-maend-kvinders-sexfantasier-mindre-forventet
Glamour Paris
https://www.glamourparis.com/amour-et-sexe/news/articles/tell-me-what-you-want-le-livre-qui-en-dit-long-sur-votre-sexualite/70274#Echobox=1541604184
The California Therapist (book review by Dr. Marty Klein in the September/October 2018 issue)
http://viewer.zmags.com/publication/8054e4ab#/8054e4ab/80
Book review by author Piers Anthony in his HiPiers newsletter (November 2018)
http://hipiers.com/newsletter.html
Forthcoming:
Cosmo – book will be featured in Sex Q&A (October). Will also be mentioned in January issue in a piece on fantasies
Psychology Today (print edition – they will be reprinting some of my blog posts about the book in the November/December issue)
Playboy (German Edition) - November
Radio, Podcasts, and TV
Savage Lovecast – interview with Dan Savage on July 3, 2018
https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/610#.Wz5GgWaZPUJ
Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast – interview on July 6, 2018
https://www.sexwithdrjess.com/2018/07/what-do-your-neighbors-fantasize-about/
Pleasure Mechanics Podcast – July 13, 2018
http://www.pleasuremechanics.com/tell-me-what-you-want-exploring-sexual-fantasy-with-justin-lehmiller-ph-d/
Talk Louisiana – July 18, 2018
http://wrkf.org/post/wednesday-june-18th-roger-villere-bruce-herschensohn-justin-lehmiller
Airtalk (NPR and KPCC) – August 6, 2018
https://www.scpr.org/programs/airtalk/2018/08/06/63458/when-it-comes-to-sex-what-s-normal-the-science-of/
You: The Owner’s Manual (Radio MD) – August 7, 2018
http://radiomd.com/show/you-the-owners-manual-radio-show/item/38100-ep-907b-improve-your-sex-life
The Psychology Podcast with Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman – recorded August 22, 2018
https://scottbarrykaufman.com/podcast/the-science-of-sexual-fantasies-with-justin-lehmiller/
Covered in Scientific American: https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/beautiful-minds/podcast-recap-october-2018-sexual-fantasies-dna-habits-and-perfect-timing/
Her podcast (Radio MD) – recorded August 23, 2018
http://radiomd.com/show/her/item/38121-sexual-fantasies
Me Time with Frangela (Television program) – August 23, 2018 and October 23, 2018
Science of Sex podcast with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova – recorded September 26, 2018
https://scienceofsexpodcast.com/42-what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-you/
Doctor Radio (Sirius XM) with Dr. Virginia Sadock – October 1, 2018
Savage Lovecast (second appearance) – recorded on October 9, 2018
https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/626#.W89E0i-ZPUI
Tell Me Everything (Sirius XM) – Interview with John Fugelsang – October 16, 2018
Sex with Emily podcast – October 23, 2018
http://sexwithemily.com/26352-2/
Sexology podcast with Dr. Nazanin Moali – recorded November 2, 2018
http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/11/13/sexual-fantasies-justin-lehmiller/
The Ersties Podcast (based in Berlin, Germany) - November 13, 2018
Sex with Strangers podcast – November 13, 2018
BBC Radio – Sex Takeover – November 20, 2018
Why Are People Into That?! Podcast – December 10, 2018
Book Mentions (not specifically about the book, but mention the book)
Cosmo
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a20967150/dry-orgasm-no-ejaculation/
Playboy
https://www.playboy.com/read/the-peak-of-pegging-why-anal-eroticism-is-everywhere-in-porn-and-pop-culture-1
https://www.playboy.com/read/how-should-we-think-about-forced-sex-fantasies-in-the-era-of-metoo
VICE/TONIC
https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/3k449v/inside-the-disturbing-forum-incels-use-to-brutally-criticize-each-others-faces
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/9k88b5/trying-not-to-think-about-sex-just-makes-you-think-about-sex-more
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/7xqq4g/women-short-orgasms
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/9km7mp/we-fantasize-about-our-romantic-partners-more-than-anyone-else
IO Donna (Italian women’s magazine)
https://www.iodonna.it/benessere/amore-e-sesso/2018/06/29/i-miti-sullorientamento-sessuale-sfatati-dalla-scienza/
Prevention
https://www.prevention.com/sex/a21969931/sex-addiction-signs/
Metro (UK)
https://metro.co.uk/2018/07/23/people-call-sexual-partners-daddy-7747622/
Quartz
https://qz.com/1348381/the-way-psychologists-talk-about-sex-reveals-exactly-what-they-get-wrong-about-our-inner-lives/
Women’s Health (Australia)
https://www.womenshealth.com.au/what-to-do-sexless-marriage
Queerty
https://www.queerty.com/homophobic-republicans-prone-gay-sex-scandals-according-one-psychologist-20180812
Chicago Tribune (online and in print)
http://www.chicagotribune.com/redeye/culture/ct-redeye-ask-anna-cross-dressing-fantasy-20180815-story.html
Patch.com
https://patch.com/pennsylvania/northwhitehall/lccc-holds-sexual-health-intimate-relationships-wellness-conf
Bustle
https://www.bustle.com/p/morning-sex-may-make-you-more-productive-a-new-survey-says-11460888
The Science Advice Goddess - column by Amy Alkon
(Syndicated in about 100 newspapers, many of which are print only)
https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/18/codger-and-me
NUVO
https://www.nuvo.net/arts/banned-books-week-addresses-pornography/article_207ecb3e-c13d-11e8-92bf-cf73ced716d2.html
The Advocate (October/November print issue and also online)
https://www.advocate.com/love-and-sex/2018/9/21/what-do-adults-fantasize-about#slide-0
The Atlantic
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/10/premarital-cohabitation-divorce/573817/
Mel Magazine
https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/why-were-all-so-thirsty-for-blood
https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/the-enduring-appeal-of-the-erotic-maid
Toronto Sun
https://torontosun.com/life/relationships/why-do-men-send-unsolicited-d-pics/amp