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Advanced Skills for Open & Poly Relationships: Dr. Elisabeth Sheff and MORE!

Advanced Concepts in Open/Poly/Swinger Relationships with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff and MORE!

**(This also serves as level 2 for our CNM Certificate. However, Level 1 is not required to join, this event and training is open to all professionals and industries)**

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Has a client or friend ever told you that they are in an open relationship, "monogamish," talk about threesomes, swinging or poly? Do you wish you had the knowledge to understand and help them? Join us for a PART 2! of this Sexceptional Weekend to learn the ADVANCED CONCEPTS and explore all the intricacies of what it means to be in a consensual non-monogamous relationship.

**(Level 1 is not required to join)

Open to ALL professionals, their partners, friends and anyone that wants to learn more!

*Choose 1/2 day, full day or weekend!*

Up to 16 hours of LPC, LMFT, LCSW and AASECT CEUs

For professionals: This is also a level 2 certificate toward full certification. IF you are working toward this specialized certificate, you must have already attended level 1. Gain CEUs towards your Consensual Non-Monogamy Certification provided by the Sexual Health Alliance and/or gain AASECT CEUs towards AASECT Sex Therapy Certification and more! AASECT Program Approved.

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children. With a PhD in Sociology, Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff’s first book, The Polyamorists Next Door (2014 hardback and ebook, 2015 paperback and audiobook), details the findings of the first 15 years of her research on polyamorous families with children. Her second book, Stories from the Polycule (2015), is an edited anthology of writings by polyamorous folks. When Someone You Love is Polyamorous (2016) is Sheff’s shortest book that guides family members and significant others who are trying to understand a polyamorous loved one.


Advance skills for any Clinician, Sex Nerd or Curious Partner! Open to everyone, invite a friend!

Training Schedule:

Friday, November 15th, 10am - 6pm

  • Predators in our Midst: AltSex Community Responses to Abuse

  • Why so White? Race & Class in AltSex Communities

  • Using White Privilege Against Itself: White Allies to POC in AltSex Spaces

Saturday, November 16th, 10am - 6pm (*Sexceptional Lecture 2-6pm w/ Sex Nerd Trivia starting at 2pm*)

  • Unruly Women & Ethical Sluts: Gender in CNM

  • Sexceptional Lecture

MORE Topics and special guests to be ANNOUNCED SOON!

*Full weekend includes up to 16 LPC, LMFT, LCSW, & Psychologists CEUs as well as 16 AASECT CEUs, AASECT Program Approved

This program offers up to 16 AASECT CEs. This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 155 AASECT CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification. Completion of this program does not ensure or guarantee AASECT certification. For further information please contact

Confronting Monogamy Ideals Embedded in Psychotherapy: Some research has found that as many as 70% of licensed therapists view nonmonogamy as “unworkable” or “unrealistic.” Modern attachment theorists view Consensual Nonmonogamy (CNM) as emerging from deficient or disturbed relationships and early childhood experiences. However, CNM is becoming far more common, and unprepared therapists are encountering it in therapy far more frequently. This training helps therapists to examine their own biases about relationship, love and sex, and explores ways to address CNM in a non-judgmental, non-shaming manner. 

  • Participants will learn to confront and challenge their own unexamined biases about relationship styles and sexuality;

  • Therapists will gain skills to be able to understand and assist different types of CNM relationships;

  • Therapists will learn to help individuals and couples gain self-awareness into the personal and relational characteristics which predict disposition to different types of CNM and success therein

CNM Case Presentations: Group will explore a variety of different case presentations, offered by the presenter, and by group participants. Participants will discuss assessment, treatment and intervention techniques appropriate to different types of CNM and different couples, based on the individual and relational characteristics. Group will discuss: Swinger couples; Cuckold couples; Polyamorous couples; Polyamorous Triads/Groups; Solo Polyamorists; DADT/Open couples; other. (2 hours)

  • Participants will gain exposure to different types of CNM therapy cases;

  • Participants will develop case presentation and treatment formulation skills;

  • Group will explore and share varied intervention and therapy techniques

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff

Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children. With a PhD in Sociology, Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff’s written 3 books, The Polyamorists Next Door (2014), Stories from the Polycule (2015) and When Someone You Love is Polyamorous (2016) explore decades of research and stories from polyamorous people. Dr. Sheff is currently in her fourth wave of data collection for her 20+ year study of polyamorous families with children.


Monogamish was originally coined by Dan Savage in 2011 to describe couples that are not totally monogamous. There is a recent documentary on the topic with Esther Perel, Dan Savage and Christopher Ryan.