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Honoring Intersex Awareness Day

Honoring Intersex Awareness Day

From a young age, many of us are taught to see the world in binary structures: love and hate, hot and cold, right or wrong. The list can go on and on. With any binary, though, there can be a grey area, forming something more like a spectrum.

In middle school s-x education, I was taught that boys are born with p-nises and girls are born with v-ginas. This too, is a binary that we’re taught to see. It wasn’t until later in life that I was taught there is also a spectrum when it comes to s-x traits. Learning that s-x traits aren’t binary opened a door for me in my education, and I’m hoping that on this Intersex Awareness Day, the door can be opened for you too.

Going Deeper Into Demisexuality

Going Deeper Into Demisexuality

You’ve probably heard the phrase “sexuality is a spectrum,” right? Well, asexuality is no different. The broad spectrum of asexuality has been depicted as an umbrella, under which there are various orientations and nuances. Demisexuality is one significant component of what’s known as the Ace Spectrum: It provides identification for those who don’t quite fit within the bounds of asexuality (meaning people who don’t experience sexual attraction) yet also don’t navigate their sexuality along the path of allosexuality (which encompasses those who do experience consistent sexual attraction to others). This broad spectrum reminds us that sexuality really does vary widely among individuals.

Eroding Allonormativity During Ace Week and Beyond

Eroding Allonormativity During Ace Week and Beyond

Observed on the last full week of every October, Ace Week—formerly Asexuality Awareness Week—is a time to center the voices, perspectives, and experiences of the broad community of persons who identify anywhere along the asexual spectrum. It’s also a time for all of us—aces and especially allies—to commit to the conscious erosion of the odious dogmas of allonormativity.

Not sure what that means? You’re not alone: for many people, allonormativity is an unrecognized concept, though one still subtly smuggled into our day-to-day lives through cultural conditioning. Here, we’ll help you learn not only what it is, but also how you can identify it, name it, and join us in working toward diminishing the grasp it has on our culture at large.

Happy Love Your Body Day!

Happy Love Your Body Day!

Before, whenever I was surrounded by a multitude of people in any space—at a shopping mall or in a park—I found my brain taking notes on how different my body looked from the girl in the cherry boots or in a silky dress. Summer or winter: it didn’t matter how many layers of clothing someone wore. My brain automatically drew a chart of differences that exist in my body versus theirs.

Versus? Like a competition? Like there should be winners and losers? It always bewildered me. For decades now, unrealistic beauty standards have been heavily marketed and profited from by pushing forth an ideal body type that everyone is “expected” to achieve. In an attempt to fight such damaging expectations, the National Organization for Women founded Love Your Body Day in 2012. 

A Pronoun Primer for International Pronouns Day

A Pronoun Primer for International Pronouns Day

International Pronouns Day has been acknowledged on the third Wednesday of every October since 2018. It’s not just a time to share and reaffirm our pronouns, but also to continuing educating ourselves on the topic. Many of us are already well aware of the health risks that correlate with misgendering, but we might still lack comfort and confidence with some of the subtle nuances of both pronouns and discussions about them.

In that spirit, we’ve put together a short primer on some aspects of pronouns that you might still find yourself wondering about. And even if you’re familiar with everything below, you might consider passing it on to anyone else in your life who still finds themself struggling—or outright resistant.

Looking Back on SHA's Inaugural Sexological Conference

Looking Back on SHA's Inaugural Sexological Conference

The S-xual Health Alliance has an ongoing goal of encouraging provocative dialogue and radical collaboration, and that sums up our first-ever S-xological Conference as well! Of course, this doesn’t come as a surprise, and I think the success of the event—centered around the science of s-x—is due to our wonderful participants and presenters, as well as host to Dr. Chris Donaghue and the SHA team.

Like all of SHA’s events, the S-xological Conference is geared toward professionals whose careers involve assisting clients with their s-x lives. Many attendees are therapists, although you’ll also commonly see social workers and s-x educators. Each event offers something for those who are just expanding their professional competencies in sexuality. Thanks to the multi-room format of this conference, which differs from previous events, participants could choose presentations to attend on Friday by heading to the appropriate (Zoom or physical) room. Like other events, a ticketing option included recordings for those who could not attend live in Denver.

What is Dead Lesbian Syndrome?

What is Dead Lesbian Syndrome?

According to Vox, queer women were killed off at five times the rate of other characters in series released between 2015-2016. Dead lesbian syndrome (or also sometimes known as Bury your gays) is a literary and film phenomenon that began in the 1970s and still remains way too present in many storylines involving queer characters. The trope essentially involves killing off the queer character towards the end of a novel or film, thereby withdrawing the prospect of a happy ending for this character. With queer representation already limited, this common narrative technique reinforces the idea that queer characters and individuals are somehow not deserving of their happy ending.

Considering the Complexities of National Coming Out Day

Considering the Complexities of National Coming Out Day

On National Coming Out Day—acknowledged every October 11th since 1988—many LGBTQIA+ persons will take their very first steps toward a public-facing queer identity. Others will look back in remembrance of their own previous experiences with “coming out,” while others still will practice their allyship by supporting their queer friends as they venture forth and boldly invite the world into their own authentic truth.

At the same time, some queer folks will quietly watch all of the above with mixed emotions or perhaps outright sadness, unable to safely and securely present themselves to the world in a manner that best aligns with their own inner self.

With the full range of queer experiences in mind, then, let’s celebrate this National Coming Out Day in a manner that truly recognizes and appreciates the nuances of a topic as complex as this one.

Why Do Some People Want to Shut Down Conversations About Sexuality?

Why Do Some People Want to Shut Down Conversations About Sexuality?

In many spaces, conversations about sexuality are—more often than not—either discouraged or unwelcome. Some people not only shut down educational discussions about sexuality but also discourage others from expressing or exploring their unique sexualities. Having learned and experienced this myself, I always wondered: why? What is it about a healthy sexuality discourse that makes some folks go absolutely ballistic? And why do people make active attempts to stop others from engaging in it?

SHA Sexological Conference 2023: Preview and Expectations

Get ready for an October filled with enlightenment and empowerment! Our upcoming 2023 Sexological conference schedule is a vibrant tapestry of knowledge, insight, and innovation in the field of sexuality. Throughout the conference, we're hosting a series of engaging sessions, activities, and discussions, carefully curated to delve into diverse aspects of human intimacy and relationships. 

From deep dives into therapeutic techniques to exploring the intersectionality of desire and identity, our October Sexological conference schedule promises a wealth of learning opportunities. Renowned experts from various fields will be sharing their expertise, ensuring you walk away with not just theoretical knowledge but practical insights that can transform your approach to sexuality education and therapy. So mark your calendars, secure your tickets, and brace yourself for inspiration, and get ready to embark on a transformative journey during this sexceptional conference!

Full Sexological Conference Schedule Including Presenter Times and Topics 

Our full conference schedule is ready! Check out the incredible speaker lineup we have curated with Dr. Chris Donaghue. Our SHA Team has some exciting after-conference activities planned and amazing giveaways for you! 

Conference Schedule for Thursday, October 12, 2023

4:00pm - 6:30pm- Welcome Reception, Meet & Greet your fantastic, fellow in-person attendees

Conference Schedule for Friday, October 13, 2023

8:30am - 9:30am- Coffee and Meet and Greet, Check In

Concurrent Sessions

9:30am - 11:00am- Jasmine Johnson & Nicole Crawford: Aging Kinky AF

11:15am - 12:15pm- Christopher Scott: Hands Off: Working with Couples with Jealousy Around Solo Sexuality

12:15pm - 1:45pm- Lunch Break

1:45pm - 3:15pm- Kelvin Pace: Strategies for Better Communication to Open Pathways to Emotional and Sexual Connection

3:30pm - 4:30pm- Timmesha Burgess: What Else Can You Do With Your Sensual & Sexual Power (Other Than Pour It Out on Tyrone)?

4:45pm - 5:45pm- Rhiannon Webb: Introducing Somatic Activation and Mindful Erotic Practice in Psychotherapy

Concurrent Sessions

9:30am - 11:00am- Diane Gleim: Porn Literacy 101

11:15am- - 12:15pm- LaKeesha Hines: Christian Women Need Orgasms, Too

12:15pm - 1:45pm- Lunch Break

1:45pm - 3:15pm- Amanda Jepson: From the Shadows: Empowerment and Healing Through Kink

3:30pm - 4:30pm- Casandra Jones: Relational/Sexual Network Mapping

4:45pm - 5:45pm- Laura Wood: Bringing Sexy Back! - Into the Therapy Room, That Is

Evening Activities 

5:45pm - 7:30pm- Dinner Break

7:30pm - 8:30pm- Briana Chapman: Body Worship Workshop

Conference Schedule for Saturday, October 14, 2023

8:30am - 9:30am- Coffee and Meet and Greet

9:30am - 12:30pm- Keynote by Dr. Chris Donaghue

12:30pm - 1:30pm- Lunch Break

1:30pm - 5:30pm- More Dr. Chris Donaghue

Evening Activities

5:30pm - 7:30pm- Dinner Break

7:30pm - 9:00pm- Return of Sex Nerd Trivia, Misha & Dub

9:00pm - 11:00pm- Dance and Chill with DJ Joel Shane

Conference Schedule for Sunday, October 15, 2023

8:30am - 9:30am- Coffee and Meet and Greet

9:30am - 1:00pm- Keynote by Dr. Chris Donaghue

1:00pm - 2:00pm- Raffle & Giveaway Announcements, Event Wrap Up

What to expect from the October Sexological Conference

Expert Insights

Attendees can expect to gain valuable insights from renowned experts in the field of sexology. Our conference features speakers who are pioneers in various aspects of human sexuality, offering in-depth knowledge and practical wisdom.

Interactive Discussions

Prepare for interactive and engaging discussions that delve into therapeutic techniques, communication strategies, and innovative approaches to sexual health. These sessions provide attendees with practical skills they can apply in their professional practice.

Diverse Perspectives

Our conference embraces diversity, offering a platform where attendees can explore a wide range of topics, from LGBTQ+ issues to cultural influences on intimacy. Expect diverse perspectives that enrich your understanding of human sexuality in all its complexity.

Networking Opportunities

Connect with like-minded professionals, sex therapists, sex educators, and researchers from around the world. The conference provides ample networking opportunities, fostering collaborations and relationships that can enhance your professional journey.

Holistic Approach

Anticipate a holistic approach to sexual health and wellness. Our sessions encompass not only the clinical aspects of sexology but also the emotional, psychological, and societal dimensions. Attendees can expect a well-rounded understanding of human sexuality, equipping them to address multifaceted challenges in their practice.

How you can attend SHA’s 2023 Sexological Conference 

Attending SHA’s 2023 Sexological Conference is easier than ever, opening doors to a world of knowledge and networking opportunities. Whether you’re a seasoned professional, an aspiring therapist, or simply someone passionate about understanding human intimacy, you can join this transformative event from the comfort of your home. 

Our conference offers virtual attendance options, allowing you to participate in enlightening presentations, engaging discussions, and unforgettable sessions without the hassle of travel. Simply secure your ticket, and you’ll gain access to a diverse array of expert speakers and thought-provoking discussions. 

This is your chance to immerse yourself in the latest developments in the field of sexology, connect with like-minded individuals, and expand your understanding of human relationships and desire. Don’t miss this opportunity to be a part of a groundbreaking event that promises not just knowledge, but a transformative experience.

Get your in-person or VIRTUAL conference ticket here. 

By Michelle Melville-Kashon 



National K!nk Day: Centering the Er0tic Non-Normative

National K!nk Day: Centering the Er0tic Non-Normative

Grab your galley whip, prepare your pup mask, and round up your rope—because today is National K!nk Day! Celebrated each year on October 6th, National K!nk Day just so happens to also fall within National K!nk Month, which runs—you guessed it—the entire month of October. No matter whether you are a 24/7 practitioner of BD$M, one-hundred percent vanilla, or anywhere in between: this is an occasion to celebrate and center the er0tic non-normative.

But wait, you might ask: er0tic non-normative? What the hell is that?

Well, friend, read on.

Sexuality and Morality

Sexuality and Morality

Premarital s-x. S-x without love. S-x for pleasure not procreation. S-x with blindfolds and knots. S-x five times a week. Have you ever been accused of engaging in these activities and condemned as a morally corrupt or chaotic person? Or told that you have “lost your innocence” and along with it, the core values you learned growing up? If you’re anything like me—breathing promiscuity more than oxygen—you’ll relate!

The Queerbaiting Quandary

The Queerbaiting Quandary

If you've spent any time on the internet in the past couple of years—especially in queer spaces—you might have heard the term queerbaiting being thrown around. The term highlights how mainstream media continues to capitalize off of queer people for their own gain, without actually representing them. Meanwhile, certain queerbaiting allegations have also been critiqued for prematurely pushing people out of the closet. 

Essentially, queerbating is when a celebrity or media producer capitalizes on building an image and suspicion that they or one of their characters might be queer—without any intention of explicit confirmation. With an estimated $3.7 trillion purchasing power among LGBTQIA+ consumers, it is no surprise companies or celebrities want to make capitalistic gains off of being relatable to this demographic

Looking Back on Bisexuality Visibility Month

Looking Back on Bisexuality Visibility Month

September—a month to celebrate resiliency, power, and love. You may be asking: “what’s so special about September? It’s just an ordinary month!” Well, reader, I’m here to tell you that September holds a high level of importance for the LGBTQIA+ community, and more specifically for the bisexual community. September is Bisexuality Visibility Month, an annual celebration for the bi (a shorthand for bisexual) community. This month is a time to uplift the voices within the bi community and bring light to the struggles this community faces, as well as an occasion to admire the strength of the bisexual community and to educate yourself on the different aspects of bisexuality. 

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