The more I learn about sexual health topics, the more I realize that there are so many myths and misconceptions that people still believe are true! It’s important to learn accurate information about sex to have good sexual communication, health, and experiences! Unfortunately, sex myths and false information is widespread, especially on social media. So, let’s tackle a few of these sex myths!
Sex Myth #1: Condoms are Just to Avoid Pregnancy
Condoms are really good at preventing pregnancy when used properly. However, keep in mind that condoms only work if you’re using them correctly. If you want to learn more about different condom types, check out this blog.
So yes, they help to prevent pregnancy. But, debunking this sex myth is important, because that’s not all they do! By creating a barrier between you and your sexual partner, they help to reduce the risk of getting a sexually transmitted infection (STI). This means that even in an encounter where pregnancy is impossible, using barrier contraception like condoms is still necessary to prevent STIs.
And while we’re at it, you should know that you can get STIs from more than just penetrative sex. When engaging in oral sex on someone’s anus or vagina, consider using a dental dam! If you’re not sure how to use one, I would recommend reading this article by the Center for Disease Control.
Sex Myth #2: All Birth Control Prevents STIs
Birth control comes in many forms: pill, implant, patch, shots, condoms, and the list goes on! Each has a different rate of effectiveness in preventing pregnancy, and some do help to prevent sexually transmitted infections. However, not all forms of birth control prevent STIs – that’s a big sex myth!
What Types of Birth Control Actually Prevent STIs?
Birth control that also helps to prevent STIs are sometimes referred to as “barrier methods,” because they create a physical barrier between sexual partners. They include:
Condoms
Internal condoms (also sometimes called “female condoms”)
Sex Myth #3: The “Pull Out” Method is Enough
The “pull out” method typically refers to the action of removing the penis before ejaculation during penile-vaginal intercourse. The sex myth here is that the action of withdrawing before the penis owner finishes is as good as other contraception methods at preventing pregnancy. Unfortunately, that is not the case. Here’s some key information:
While pulling out is a better strategy to avoid pregnancy in comparison to using no contraception during sexual intercourse, it is not that effective. This is partly related to pre-ejaculatory fluid, often called “pre-cum.”
Pre-cum (released before ejaculation) contains sperm and can cause pregnancy. Pulling out does not protect from this possibility!
This method is about 78% percent effective while the effectiveness of using condoms is about 87%. Even higher are birth control implants or intrauterine devices (“IUDs”) at 99%. If you can, consider using another method in addition to withdrawing.
Sex Myth #4: Barrier Contraception Makes Sex Less Enjoyable
This sex myth is a tough one! Technically, using a condom (whether external or internal) might make sexual intercourse less enjoyable for certain people. These folks may be more likely to rely on the “pull out” method because anything that isn’t unprotected sex just “doesn’t feel right.” Whether that’s true or not is a different conversation. What we do know is that this puts individuals at a great risk of STIs and unwanted pregnancy.
I wonder if people who prefer unprotected sex because it “feels better” would also find dealing with STI treatment or an unwanted pregnancy enjoyable. As fun and enjoyable as sex can be, you also need to consider the consequences of being negligent when it comes to using contraception. Be sure to weigh the opportunity cost and make an informed decision before you forego using a condom.
In fact, from that perspective the piece of mind you get from protecting yourself and avoiding unwanted consequences may make the experience more enjoyable. Then, you’re not worrying about negative outcomes and can focus on being present in the moment.
Also, know that there are so many different condom options. Maybe external condoms aren’t for you, or maybe the material it's made of doesn’t agree with your body. No worries! There is a wide variety of condom options, so I would encourage you to try different ones and see what works best for you and your sexual partners.
Sex Myth #5: You Should Depend on Your Sexual Partner to Have Contraception
Your sexual partner might be on birth control and they might be free of sexually transmitted infections. If you’re lucky, they might have remembered to bring a condom or dental dam. No matter what a great person they might be, they’re human and can make mistakes! Whether you’re planning a one-night stand or a repeat encounter, you are responsible for being proactive about your sexual health!
In line with that, do your best to practice sexual self-efficacy. That means:
Advocate for what contraception you want used and don’t let anyone pressure you into sexual activity without it!
Communicate to your partner when you’re ambivalent about engaging in sexual activity
Frequently Asked Questions
I Want to Learn More About Sex Myths, What Should I Do?
You’ve come to the right place! The Sexual Health Alliance’s Nymphomedia blog frequently addresses and debunks sex myths. The Sexology Lab podcast is also a great resource to hear accurate information from sexual health professionals!
How Do I Bring Up These Sex Myths With My Partner?
As a general rule of thumb, try to have these conversations you start engaging in sexual activity. Check out this blog on sexual communication for more insight!
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Written by Jesse John, B.S.
Jesse is a clinical psychology doctoral student at Rowan University in New Jersey. Their research focuses on sexual decision-making, sexual violence, and relationship experiences. The author identifies as a Queer, neurodivergent, non-binary, white person, which informs the way they write and see the world!
