There is a wealth of contraceptive methods available, but the only ones that protect against both STIs and pregnancy are condoms. When used correctly, the “male” condom (or, more precisely, the variety of condoms made to be used on a penis) has a 98% effective rate and thereby remains one of the most commonly used barrier methods during sex.
Buying condoms can be an intimidating experience for a range of reasons. When you're faced with such a range of options, it can be hard to know what you want or need—but trust us when we tell you that there’s a condom for everyone. No more believing Brad, or Chad, or Josh when he says that all condoms are “uncomfortable” and “desensitizing.” Instead, sit him down and take him through our guide to condomology: the art and science of finding your true condom.
Size
I’m sure we've all seen the videos where people put their entire forearm into a condom to demonstrate that no penis-haver should ever tell you that condoms are too tight on them. These videos are, however, spreading misinformation. Yes, most penises will fit in a standard-sized condom, but according to Medical News Today, if a penis is under 4.7 inches or over 5.1 inches in girth, you might want to look into snug or large-fit condoms. One can measure girth by wrapping a measuring tape around the thickest part of an erect penis or doing the same with a string and then measuring the result against a ruler. Girth is more important for the fit of the condom, and few experience standard condoms being too short.
Material
Latex is the most common material used in condoms and is an effective barrier against sperm, viruses, and bacteria. Latex is, however, not compatible with oil-based lubes such as baby oil, massage oil, and Vaseline. Oil-based lubes break down latex and risk a tear in the condom. Moreover, some people have latex allergies (which many unfortunately find out the hard way) and may therefore choose not to use latex condoms.
Polyurethane and Polyisoprene are synthetic latex alternatives which can be used for those with latex allergies. Polyurethane condoms can even be used with oil-based lubes and tend to be thinner than latex which can help create a closer feel.
Lambskin is the final common material used in condoms and can also be used for those with latex allergies. The condom is not made of actual lambskin but an intestinal membrane of a lamb. Lambskin condoms protect against pregnancy but not STIs due to tiny pores that are too small for sperm to pass through but not small enough to prevent the risk of transmitting infections.
Feeling More
Those with a penis who say they feel too little in traditional condoms may want to look into “thin” alternatives. These are specially manufactured to be thinner, and therefore, you are likely to feel more and perhaps even closer to your partner without the risk of breakage.
When both parties want to feel more, textured and ribbed condoms may be the way to go. Depending on where the texture and ribs are, they will pleasure either the individual wearing the condom or the individual being penetrated. These ribs add to the sensation and can be an excellent way to increase pleasure for one or more parties.
Those seeking a more intense experience for both parties may add a tingling gel (often mint lubricant) to the condom. Some find this prickling sensation an incredible addition to an already intense experience, while others hate it. You can’t know until you try.
Feeling Less
Some condoms, such as the Durex Mutual Climax condoms, have 5% benzocaine numbing agent, which helps those wearing the condom feel a little less, thereby decreasing the chances of a premature end to the experience. These condoms might simultaneously be ribbed on the outside for the other partner to feel more in order to increase the chances of a simultaneous orgasm.
Condoms with extra lube might also be an alternative if either partner struggles with feeling too much. Lube reduces friction and can thereby reduce the intensity of penetration. If you’re using normal condoms with additional lube, ensure the condom and lube are compatible.
Since they reduce stimulation, extra thick condoms can also be an alternative for those who wish sex lasted a little longer.
Additional Features
Spermicidal condoms are coated in products designed to kill sperm, providing that extra layer of safety against pregnancy. However, nonoxynol-9, used in the spermicide to kill sperm, can cause irritations for some. At any signs of irritation or discomfort, you should stop using that type of condom and switch to an alternative.
Condoms can also be used during oral sex since the risk of contracting an STI is still present. Since many don’t enjoy the taste of latex, flavored condoms exist to make this experience more enjoyable. Since these tend to be a more novelty item, it is crucial to ensure that they are FDA approved if you want to also use these condoms for penetration. The flavored lube or coating may also pose higher risks for yeast infections as they might throw off the natural pH balance of the vagina.
Warming condoms are covered in a gel which slightly warms during contact. These condoms are completely safe and FDA-approved and can enhance the sensation for both parties. Cooling condoms also exist and can provide a new sensation in the bedroom. Some consumers of the Trojan “Fire and Ice Dual Lubricant” condoms even claim that one partner experienced warmth while the other experienced cooling sensations.
When you better understand all the various sizes, types, and novelties available, you can make an informed condom choice that maximizes both your satisfaction and your safety. It is important that you take time to consider and explore which options are best for you and your partner(s). Always ensure that the condoms you use are from an FDA-approved brand and are within their expiration date. Open and honest communication with your partner(s) about condom usage and needs is vital to ensure mutual pleasure and informed consent. Let’s educate ourselves and others and break down the barriers to barrier method protection!
Written by Ellen Gisto.