By: SHA Intern Rebecca Sanchez
In September 2020, SHA’s founder and CEO, Heather McPherson, LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST, was invited on Loveline with Dr. Chris Donaghue to discuss cuckolding and hotwifing!
Dr. Chris asked Heather, “For those listening, how can one go about bringing up exploring cuckolding or hotwifing to their partners, specifically in monogamous relationships?” Monogamy, in the words of Dr. Chris, “can stop people’s sexual development” as well as relationship development, meaning that perhaps individuals who want to bring in another person into the bedroom might feel hesitant or restricted in a monogamous relationship. In response, Heather recommended “moving at the slower person's pace”, reminding listeners that this sort of topic can take time to digest with your partner. Heather also suggests to “be open and curious about what you’re desiring, what you want out of the experience.”
Heather also responded to the myth that only men would want to engage in this sort of sexual activity, but she assures both Dr. Chris and listeners that “a lot of self-identified females will bring it to the table,” mentioning the empowerment that can emerge for many women through this experience.
You can listen to the full Loveline podcast episode here:
Terms glossary:
Cuckolding and hotwifing: Terms used to describe the arrangement where one partner sleeps with others outside of the relationship and the other partner receives sexual enjoyment from this knowledge.