Question-based games about sex are an easy and playful way to approach sex. From the classic Truth or Dare to a naughty card game, these games prompt conversations couples and lovers should be having. These games are undoubtedly still fun, but the spontaneous nature and emphasis on play and fantasy, doesn’t necessarily foster deep conversations. Mickie Woods wants to change that. As a sexologist and relationship scientist, Wood is known for her “refreshing perspectives on intimacy and human connection.”
On her website, she shares her belief in “teaching through experiences” and encourages all voices to join the conversation, but is quick to make sure she doesn’t overwhelm anyone with her own personal knowledge. Instead she emphasizes the need for tools that help her audience “create their own desired outcomes.” Her debut game, Sex Talk, is the first tool in her arsenal. Sex Talk is a collection of 69 thoughtful questions about sex with the objective of starting conversations and enhancing intimacy. It is designed as a 2-player game for “couples and lovers at any stage.” One reviewer shared that:
“The game has helped my wife and I talk about some things that normally I would not know how to even ask that question. We are about halfway through the game but it feels great getting to know my wife’s thoughts on sex again.”
But Sex Talk could also be played solo as prompts for reflection, or in a group. A different reviewer played with a group of friends and said they had “amazing and deep and eye-opening conversations.” They do suggest that you read the questions before playing with a partner if you are in the process of healing your sexuality in any way.
What shifts this sex card game from others is it is intended to be asked in numerical order. The cards are split into three sections. It starts with the basics, asking you to discover and discuss “why you are the way you are as a sexual being.” Once you’ve established that, you move onto your interests, preferences, fantasies, and desires. You end the game by exploring sexual tension and creating a shared pleasurable experience. Some of the cards read: “During sex, what would you like to spend the most time doing?” or “In your opinion, what does it mean to be ‘good in bed’?” The questions call for true honesty when they ask things like “What helps you to relax so that you can be fully present during sex?” By deviating from the traditonal, shuffle-and-pick game, Sex Talk gently guides conversations and encourages exploration. Sex talk is great for:
Making discussions about sex easy and fun
Expanding your sexual intelligence
Having a unique date night in
Reigniting an intimate spark
And so much more
If anyone understands the importance of healthy, productive conversations, its the Sexual Health Alliance and I see Sex Talk as tool sex counselors, sex therapists and sex educators could utilize in their own practice or suggest to clients.
By Shelby Lueders