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Do partners usually orgasm at the same time? SHA talks with Dr. Laurie Mintz!

Do partners usually orgasm at the same time? SHA talks with Dr. Laurie Mintz!

It’s something we see in movies and TV shows all of the time. The moment when partners orgasm together… at the exact same time. While this isn’t a complete mythical unicorn situation and does happen sometimes, IT IS NOT THE NORM. Let me say that again for the people in the back: ORGASMING AT THE SAME TIME AS YOUR PARTNER IS NOT THE NORM! This is one of the many things we talked about with Dr. Laurie Mintz in her interview with Sexual Health Alliance. 

About Dr. Laurie Mintz: Presenter at SHA’s Keeping the Spark Alive Event 

Dr. Laurie Mintz will be presenting at Sexual Health Alliance’s August 2024 event: Keeping the Spark Alive (and she has written the books on orgasms and desire)! This event features research from some of the top sexuality experts in the field. Presentations during this event will be focused on couples, sexuality, and sexual satisfaction. There will be an expert lineup of presenters like Clinical Supervisor Kat Kova and Associate Professor Dr. Uzma Rehman

Sexual Health Alliance is so excited to welcome Dr. Laurie Mintz to our Keeping the Spark Alive event! She is a sex therapist, professor, and the author of two best-selling books. She was also named one of Forbes 50 over 50 Women Innovators in 2023! (50 OVER 50: INNOVATION)

In Becoming Cliterate (HarperOne, May 2017), psychology professor and human sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz exposes the broader cultural problem that’s perpetuating this gap, and what we can do about it. By dispelling the lies, misunderstandings, and myths that have been holding us back, Becoming Cliterate tackles both personal and political problems and replaces them with updated outlooks and practical skills needed to change our collective perspective on sex. The revolution is cuming—and Becoming Cliterate offers a radical, simple solution to progress and pleasure for all.

In this guide, Dr. Laurie B. Mintz shows women how to bring their libido back to life and put the passion back into their lives. Mintz, a psychologist and sex expert, has been there, both personally and professionally. She shares her own story, as well as the stories of her many clients, as she puts forward her foolproof five-step plan designed to excite and energize even the weariest of stressed-out women. Complete with case studies and exercises, this sex-cure-in-a-book is all readers need to feel strong, sexy, and sensual again!

Solutions for Female Orgasm Problems with Dr. Laurie Mintz

Something important Dr. Laurie Mintz will be talking about at Keeping the Spark Alive is orgasm problems! Folks with vulvas are having trouble experiencing orgasms. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our culture! During her presentation, you will learn skills to help yourself and your clients have orgasms (or better orgasms)! Whether you are a sex therapist, sex educator, pelvic floor therapist, nurse, physician, or other professional, this information will be valuable to you and your clients. Let’s help your clients experience more pleasure! Dr. Laurie Mintiz’s presentation is sure to be informative and educational. Everything she presents will be based on science and she has done extensive research in this field. 

Now, back to what we were talking about at the beginning: simultaneous orgasm. Did you know that only 4% of women reliably orgasm through penetration? Women don’t typically orgasm this way! Focusing on orgasming at the same time as your partner can cause you to miss out on one of the most important components of sex: giving and receiving pleasure! If you are worried about simultaneous orgasms, your energy will be drawn from how good the sex feels and how much you and your partner are enjoying yourselves. 

Help! What are some tips for having an orgasm?

During our video interview with Dr. Laurie Mintz she shared five tips for having an orgasm! You don’t want to miss these. 

  1. Learn your genital anatomy - Dr. Laurie Mintz will be bringing her vulva puppet to Keeping the Spark Alive to give us a live vulva tour

  2. Buy some lube - At Sexual Health Alliance, we are a big fan of lube! Learn all about lube here.

  3. Take the time to play with yourself - It’s time to explore! This body belongs to you, it’s time to get to know it well.

  4. Get yourself a clitoral vibrator - Try different brands and see what they have to offer… it’s adult playtime!

  5. Learn how to talk to your partner about bringing your vibrator into sex - This is so important! How do you start this conversation? Dr. Laurie Mintz will tell us how at Keeping the Spark Alive!

Sexual Health Alliance is proud to offer online, weekend events like Keeping the Spark Alive that are educational and accessible. Anyone can attend a SHA online event, you don’t have to be a sex therapist! Where else can you get Q&A time like this with experts in the sexuality field? 

Get your ticket to Keeping the Spark Alive now! 

Written by: Michelle Melville-Kashon

Watch the video interview with Dr. Laurie Mintz here: