Updated: March 5th, 2024

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Our Sexceptional Lecturer, Dr. Justin Lehmiller continues to outstanding praise and media coverage. Since 2018, he has been on a world tour with the Sexual Health Alliance to deliver trainings to all types of professionals in Denver, CO, Austin, TX, Dallas, TX, Los Angelos, CA, Chicago, IL and Seattle, WA . Visit our Events tab at the top of the page to find all upcoming events!

TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT by Dr. JUSTIN LEHMILLER Media Coverage

Major features (print and online)

The Wall Street Journal

https://www.wsj.com/articles/new-research-delves-into-sexual-fantasies-1529936957

The Daily Mail (U.K.)

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5883591/Americans-crave-group-sex-largest-domestic-survey-sexual-fantasies-reveals.html

NUVO (Indianapolis paper)

https://www.nuvo.net/arts/summer-reads-new-books-by-indy-authors/article_5ff70a50-798b-11e8-8149-830546771d79.html

De Morgen (Begium newspaper)

https://www.demorgen.be/wetenschap/meeste-mensen-dromen-van-triootje-maar-doen-het-daarom-nog-niet-b8f9583c/

Bustle

https://www.bustle.com/p/the-7-most-popular-sexual-fantasies-according-to-4000-americans-9615180

Mel Magazine

https://melmagazine.com/americans-crave-group-sex-fc57e932b3ae

Livestrong

https://www.livestrong.com/article/13713594-the-most-popular-sexual-fantasy-americans-have/

https://www.livestrong.com/slideshow/13713927-the-psychology-behind-8-popular-american-sexual-fantasies/

The Sunday Times (U.K.)

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/tell-me-what-you-want-an-exclusive-extract-from-dr-justin-lehmiller-s-new-book-exploring-what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-you-zl7w535ml

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/editor-s-letter-lorraine-candy-on-sexual-fantasies-and-dr-justin-lehmiller-s-new-book-tell-me-what-you-want-jsctrbhx6

Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/standard-deviations/201807/fantasy-island-research-probes-the-science-sexual-desire (book review by Michael Aaron)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stepmonster/201807/what-we-think-about-when-we-think-about-and-have-sex (Q&A with Wednesday Martin)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-myths-sex/201807/the-deeper-psychological-meaning-behind-your-sex-fantasies

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-myths-sex/201807/where-do-our-sexual-fantasies-come

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201808/why-do-we-have-sex-fantasies-its-about-more-pleasure

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201808/what-your-sexual-fantasies-reveal-about-your-personality

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201807/the-politics-cuckolding (post by Dr. David Ley)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201809/4-uncommon-sexual-fantasies-and-what-they-mean

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201809/what-do-our-sexual-fantasies-say-about-who-we-are

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201810/seven-fascinating-facts-about-sexual-fantasies

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-matters/201811/new-research-might-be-able-predict-your-sexual-fantasies (post by Ari Tuckman)

Herald Sun (Australia)

https://www.heraldsun.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/a-new-survey-has-revealed-what-we-really-fantasise-about-in-bed-and-how-it-varies/news-story/3803c10ad386aa8e38b4656034403d60

The Sun (U.K.)

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/6671001/six-common-sexual-fantasies-revealed/

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/6653023/heres-what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-your-personality-and-it-turns-out-women-like-it-rougher-than-men/

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/6757293/two-year-sex-survey-brits/

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/7562703/sexual-fantasies-personality/

Daily Mirror (U.K.)

https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/sex-relationships/sex/top-6-most-common-sexual-12839475

https://www.mirror.co.uk/lifestyle/health/how-improve-your-sex-life-12895401

Bild (German tabloid)

https://m.bild.de/unterhaltung/erotik/sex-und-liebe/von-diesem-sex-traeumen-wir-am-haeufigsten-56185836.bildMobile.html

goop

https://goop.com/wellness/sexual-health/how-the-science-of-sexual-desire-can-improve-your-sex-life/?ref=newsletter

Metro (U.K.)

https://metro.co.uk/2018/07/07/seven-common-sexual-fantasies-7690384/

The I (U.K.)

https://inews.co.uk/opinion/the-most-unusual-sexual-fantasies-from-the-largest-ever-survey-and-what-they-tell-us/

https://inews.co.uk/opinion/the-deeper-psychological-needs-behind-your-sexual-fantasies/

The Independent (U.K.)

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/common-sexual-fantasies-threesomes-bdsm-public-american-a8438566.html

VICE/TONIC (book excerpt)

https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/evk8ae/how-to-stop-feeling-guilty-about-what-you-want-in-bed
USA Today

https://usat.ly/2uacwCS

Republished in the Battle Creek Enquirer (Michigan) in print

Ask Me Anything on Reddit (July 10)

https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/8xr09r/i_am_justin_lehmiller_a_research_fellow_at_the/

New York Journal of Books (review)

https://www.nyjournalofbooks.com/book-review/tell-me

Naked at Our Age by Joan Price (review)

http://betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/2018/07/tell-me-what-you-want-by-justin.html

The Atlantic

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/07/sexual-fantasies-justin-lehmiller/565547/

The Indianapolis Star

https://www.indystar.com/story/entertainment/arts/2018/07/19/kinsey-sex-doc-most-common-sexual-fantasy-america/786609002/

Republished in USA Today: https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/nation-now/2018/07/19/kinsey-institute-sex-researcher-sexual-fantasies/800581002/

Republished in Cincinnati Enquirer: https://www.cincinnati.com/story/entertainment/arts/2018/07/19/kinsey-sex-doc-most-common-sexual-fantasy-america/786609002/

Republished in Louisville Courier Journal: https://www.courier-journal.com/story/entertainment/arts/2018/07/20/most-common-sexual-fantasy-america/807749002/

The Cut

https://www.thecut.com/article/what-its-like-to-be-a-sex-researcher.html
CNN

https://www.cnn.com/2018/07/24/health/sex-fantasies-kerner/index.html

Republished in CNN Chile: https://www.cnnchile.com/tendencias/esto-es-lo-que-tus-fantasias-sexuales-dicen-sobre-ti_20181020/

Chicago Tribune

http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/stevens/ct-life-stevens-monday-americans-sexual-fantasies-0730-story.html

Republished in Arizona Daily Star: https://tucson.com/lifestyles/balancing-act-americans-no-sexual-fantasy-survey-says/article_a1af8470-daec-56cf-880f-620e7c39ec7d.html

Republished in the Santa Barbara News Press (print only)

Of Sex and Love Blog (review)

http://ofsexandlove.com/tell-me-what-you-want

Boston Globe

https://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/2018/08/10/tell-what-you-want-looks-sexual-fantasies-and-science-desire/rEugCse6UDX3KjJuQ03srK/story.html

Fatherly

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/sex/sex-fantasies-common-desire-shame-research/

Men’s Health Magazine (print) – “Ask an Advisor” feature entitled “Reel Sex” published in the September 2018 issue

Romance Daily News

https://www.romancedailynews.com/trends

RealClearLife

http://www.realclearlife.com/books/americas-sexual-fantasies-laid-bare-new-book/

Yahoo Brazil

https://br.vida-estilo.yahoo.com/casais-acham-mais-facil-fazer-sexo-que-revelar-fantasias-diz-pesquisador-233903997.html

Broadly

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/qvmynb/five-most-common-sexual-kinks-fantasies

Maxim

https://www.maxim.com/maxim-man/most-popular-kinks-in-america-2018-9

NUVO (online and in print)

https://www.nuvo.net/arts/tell-me-what-you-want-science-and-sexual-fantasy/article_89047c0e-c100-11e8-bab7-8be69baf5fd0.html

Brides.com

https://www.brides.com/story/fantasize-about-your-partner

The New York Times (review)

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/10/17/books/review/tell-me-what-you-want-justin-lehmiller.html

Published in print on October 21, 2018

Huffington Post

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-your-sexual-fantasies-reveal-about-you_n_5bc8b6d3e4b0a8f17eea3227

Elite Daily

https://www.elitedaily.com/p/what-do-your-sexual-fantasies-reveal-about-your-personality-this-study-is-mindblowing-12753040

Politico (op-ed written by me)

https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2018/10/27/sexual-fantasies-republicans-democrats-politics-221919

Covered in Rolling Stone

https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/republican-democrat-different-sexual-fantasies-748265/amp/

Covered in Yahoo

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/republicans-democrats-divided-sexual-fantasies-182845074.html

Covered in Yahoo News UK

https://sports.yahoo.com/left-wingers-right-wingers-different-sexual-fantasies-124251689.html

Covered in Indy100

https://www.indy100.com/article/midterms-2018-sex-fantasy-study-sexual-republican-democrat-bdsm-infedelity-8608851

Covered in IFL Science

https://www.iflscience.com/editors-blog/republicans-and-democrats-have-very-different-sexual-fantasies/

Covered in LGBTQ Nation

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2018/10/republicans-democrats-vastly-different-sexual-fantasies-reason-fascinating/

Covered in Inquisitor

https://www.inquisitr.com/5136903/republicans-democrats-divided-on-sexual-fantasies-as-well-as-politics/amp/

Covered on The Late Show With Stephen Colbert

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3neoZaTEUeM&feature=youtu.be

Information (Danish newspaper)

https://www.information.dk/kultur/2018/10/bogkort-forskellene-paa-maend-kvinders-sexfantasier-mindre-forventet

Glamour Paris

https://www.glamourparis.com/amour-et-sexe/news/articles/tell-me-what-you-want-le-livre-qui-en-dit-long-sur-votre-sexualite/70274#Echobox=1541604184

The California Therapist (book review by Dr. Marty Klein in the September/October 2018 issue)

http://viewer.zmags.com/publication/8054e4ab#/8054e4ab/80

Book review by author Piers Anthony in his HiPiers newsletter (November 2018)

http://hipiers.com/newsletter.html

Forthcoming:

Cosmo – book will be featured in Sex Q&A (October). Will also be mentioned in January issue in a piece on fantasies

Psychology Today (print edition – they will be reprinting some of my blog posts about the book in the November/December issue)

Playboy (German Edition) - November

Radio, Podcasts, and TV

Savage Lovecast – interview with Dan Savage on July 3, 2018

https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/610#.Wz5GgWaZPUJ

Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast – interview on July 6, 2018

https://www.sexwithdrjess.com/2018/07/what-do-your-neighbors-fantasize-about/

Pleasure Mechanics Podcast – July 13, 2018

http://www.pleasuremechanics.com/tell-me-what-you-want-exploring-sexual-fantasy-with-justin-lehmiller-ph-d/

Talk Louisiana – July 18, 2018

http://wrkf.org/post/wednesday-june-18th-roger-villere-bruce-herschensohn-justin-lehmiller

Airtalk (NPR and KPCC) – August 6, 2018

https://www.scpr.org/programs/airtalk/2018/08/06/63458/when-it-comes-to-sex-what-s-normal-the-science-of/

You: The Owner’s Manual (Radio MD) – August 7, 2018

http://radiomd.com/show/you-the-owners-manual-radio-show/item/38100-ep-907b-improve-your-sex-life

The Psychology Podcast with Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman – recorded August 22, 2018

https://scottbarrykaufman.com/podcast/the-science-of-sexual-fantasies-with-justin-lehmiller/

Covered in Scientific American: https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/beautiful-minds/podcast-recap-october-2018-sexual-fantasies-dna-habits-and-perfect-timing/

Her podcast (Radio MD) – recorded August 23, 2018

http://radiomd.com/show/her/item/38121-sexual-fantasies

Me Time with Frangela (Television program) – August 23, 2018 and October 23, 2018

Science of Sex podcast with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova – recorded September 26, 2018

https://scienceofsexpodcast.com/42-what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-you/

Doctor Radio (Sirius XM) with Dr. Virginia Sadock – October 1, 2018

Savage Lovecast (second appearance) – recorded on October 9, 2018

https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/626#.W89E0i-ZPUI

Tell Me Everything (Sirius XM) – Interview with John Fugelsang – October 16, 2018

Sex with Emily podcast – October 23, 2018

http://sexwithemily.com/26352-2/

Sexology podcast with Dr. Nazanin Moali – recorded November 2, 2018

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/11/13/sexual-fantasies-justin-lehmiller/

The Ersties Podcast (based in Berlin, Germany) - November 13, 2018

Sex with Strangers podcast – November 13, 2018

BBC Radio – Sex Takeover – November 20, 2018

Why Are People Into That?! Podcast – December 10, 2018

Book Mentions (not specifically about the book, but mention the book)

Cosmo

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a20967150/dry-orgasm-no-ejaculation/

Playboy

https://www.playboy.com/read/the-peak-of-pegging-why-anal-eroticism-is-everywhere-in-porn-and-pop-culture-1

https://www.playboy.com/read/how-should-we-think-about-forced-sex-fantasies-in-the-era-of-metoo

VICE/TONIC

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/3k449v/inside-the-disturbing-forum-incels-use-to-brutally-criticize-each-others-faces

https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/9k88b5/trying-not-to-think-about-sex-just-makes-you-think-about-sex-more

https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/7xqq4g/women-short-orgasms

https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/9km7mp/we-fantasize-about-our-romantic-partners-more-than-anyone-else

IO Donna (Italian women’s magazine)

https://www.iodonna.it/benessere/amore-e-sesso/2018/06/29/i-miti-sullorientamento-sessuale-sfatati-dalla-scienza/

Prevention

https://www.prevention.com/sex/a21969931/sex-addiction-signs/

Metro (UK)

https://metro.co.uk/2018/07/23/people-call-sexual-partners-daddy-7747622/

Quartz

https://qz.com/1348381/the-way-psychologists-talk-about-sex-reveals-exactly-what-they-get-wrong-about-our-inner-lives/

Women’s Health (Australia)

https://www.womenshealth.com.au/what-to-do-sexless-marriage

Queerty

https://www.queerty.com/homophobic-republicans-prone-gay-sex-scandals-according-one-psychologist-20180812

Chicago Tribune (online and in print)

http://www.chicagotribune.com/redeye/culture/ct-redeye-ask-anna-cross-dressing-fantasy-20180815-story.html

Patch.com

https://patch.com/pennsylvania/northwhitehall/lccc-holds-sexual-health-intimate-relationships-wellness-conf

Bustle

https://www.bustle.com/p/morning-sex-may-make-you-more-productive-a-new-survey-says-11460888

The Science Advice Goddess - column by Amy Alkon

(Syndicated in about 100 newspapers, many of which are print only)

https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/18/codger-and-me

NUVO

https://www.nuvo.net/arts/banned-books-week-addresses-pornography/article_207ecb3e-c13d-11e8-92bf-cf73ced716d2.html

The Advocate (October/November print issue and also online)

https://www.advocate.com/love-and-sex/2018/9/21/what-do-adults-fantasize-about#slide-0

The Atlantic

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/10/premarital-cohabitation-divorce/573817/

Mel Magazine

https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/why-were-all-so-thirsty-for-blood

https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/the-enduring-appeal-of-the-erotic-maid

Toronto Sun

https://torontosun.com/life/relationships/why-do-men-send-unsolicited-d-pics/amp

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